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Safe space

writingmagick404 April 13th, 2023

I like coming on 7 cups bc the group chats always feel like a safe space to share things with others. But lately it feels like trying to chat with an individual listener is the worst idea I've ever had. I'm tired of people asking me how they can "help". Not looking for "help".

Way more than that, I'm tired of being told what I am / what to do. You don't know me enough to tell me what I am. Moreover, why would a Listener tell me what to do or not to do?

Also, conditional apologies. Need I say more?

I just. I struggle with wanting to come back for a longer conversation when listeners haven't proven to be good conversationalist. Makes me feel like I'm safer in a peer space than a 1 on 1 space. Which just sucks because sometimes I want to be able to talk extendedly, safely. Without someone telling me to "not be judgemental", even when I'm unfailingly polite.

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bubbleCurrent6525 April 13th, 2023

@writingmagick404

I understand where you are going. Sometimes you don’t want any advice from others. You just want them to listen to you talk. I’m not sure but finding the right listener may be similar to finding the right therapist. Someone who you click with. I hope you can find what you are seeking for.

Jessie908 May 9th, 2023

Yess