Need Advice on What to Do
Hi everyone!
I'm East, and I am going through a pretty emotionally hard time right now. I have many issues, the most prominent right now being fear of abandonment. Due to working on myself (or trying to, at least), I feel that my parents (especially my mom) love me conditionally. I feel that my efforts to get better are not aknowledged, and I feel afraid to tell my mom things; while she is happy to listen, sometimes I fear that she will throw them in my face during an argument. I don't want to be loved only when things are okay; it's one of the reasons why I fear conflict.
I do have someone in my life that has proven that they love me unconditionally. They've seen me at my worst and know everything that they would need to know about me; they think still being by my side is no big deal, but it speaks volumes to me. I think of them as a safe space; as family. I don't want my insecurities and my bad past experiences to affect my relationship with this person more than they already have. They know I'm trying to work on myself, and aknowledge it, and I feel secure with this; I just don't want to ruin it. How do I not let past experiences and outside struggles affect this?
If you've made it this far, you're quite amazing!! 😀
Thanks,
East