I was just wondering how to heal from judgment and from a fear of human people when feeling vulnerable, stalked and sort of harassed on a mass scale?
Nothing or anything is real, I just mean regardless whether or not my brain made it up. How do you feel like a human being is safe to any extent on a personal level? I'm trying not to be agreeable or obedient since that kind of gets *** after a bit. It's just genuine vulnerability kind of makes seeking isolation and reclusiveness horrifying, especially since I was attempting to open up and make something new of myself. I'm kind of unsure where a lot in me is at. I kept a lot separate in me to cope with avoiding bonds and people, and it feels really complicated and intense how every feeling or capacity for safety, bonding or functioning link to things or can go against each other. how can anyone be safe at all on a personal sense
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say I need someone safe since I feel horribly vulnerable and someone is actually so, how could I manage my brain to fake something in case it's not right and until I can take anything either positive or negative or neutral at all
@ScaredLongNeckedFrend
I don’t know that I have the answer for you. This might be above the pay grade of this site. I knew someone online who dealt with a lot of similar anxieties, and they ended up getting diagnosed with a few bigger mental health things that they hopefully now have access to treat and manage.
Figuring out what makes a safe person takes a lot of trust. Is there a list of quantifiable traits you can think of that would make someone safe, by your definition? It does take an exchange of vulnerability to figure out who the right people are and let them in, but it’s often a gradual process that develops over the course of a friendship. If you know someone for say, months, you probably have a solidly formed opinion of them based on the total of your interactions and can make a judgement call from there.
@JackalopesExist hey thanks for asking about quantifiable traits. I can't find anything. I used to want to assure safety before trust as if my life depended on it to an obsessive degree, but that's too rough for me to manage now and I need faster. I can't make the leap for one specific issue since I've only seen horrifying examples and it's been extensively traumatic. And it feels vulnerable how it affects me to such an incapacitating degree while I feel so deeply apart from anyone or unsafe/alone in regards to them. I felt like some people seemed safe or I made that leap, but horrors, I don't know wtf is happening and I'm scared and feel really vulnerable. and also another person seemed like a safe person but maybe not
@ScaredLongNeckedFrend To accept the emotions you feel about judgment and fear of being human, don't resist or suppress them. Recognizing these emotions as normal responses can help you deal with them better.
