I need advice
I posted a little about this in the trauma thread, but I’m a little at a loss here because there are so many questions I have that I just need a new post entirely.
Ever since my sister and I were young, we have played role-playing games, like being Harry and Hermione and going on adventures, etc. My sister and I had very hard childhoods — narcissistic father, sick mother with Lupus and Bipolar, neglected, parentification — so this was our way with escape, but sadly, we are now 21, obsessed with Attack On Titan, and still do it.
A part of me is sort of like “who cares?!? People play DnD all the time!” Since it makes me happy sometimes, but another of part of me feels so disgusting and like throwing up and running away.
I know this is about to get worse and I’m sorry, but the reason why I feel so disgusting is that, a few months ago, I remembered something from my childhood: that, when we were young, while we played these games, we dry-humped each other. After a month or so as a kid, I pushed her off and she did it anyways, and remembering that hasn’t made anything the same. We stopped after that, but it haunted me for awhile after I remembered it recently.
Thanks to the trauma chat, her and I talked about it and I’m healing. We were neglected kids, our parents never taught us anything about anything, so how would we have known? Remembering it makes me cry sometimes, as that memory taints so many, but I’m getting there.
But, now, after expressing that I want to stop roleplaying, we still do because a part of me really enjoys it. Nothing bad happens or anything: we just chit-chat as the characters. But, I can’t help but have that little part of me go, “that’s weird. You are 21 years old and still doing this. Grow up, get a life, and run away.”
so, I don’t know what the heck to do. Her and I both have terrible anxiety and depression. She has moved to college recently, but I still see her everyday because I commute there daily (last semester and can’t dorm 😭, but she’s in a 6 year program so she’ll be there awhile). And, both of us want to roleplay but don’t because of her roomates (I’d die if anyone ever found out).
we are trying to wane out of it (she agreed!) by only roleplaying during the weekends when she’s home and will stop on Halloween for good, but, guys, I feel like this whole role playing thing and getting assaulted and all of that is going to eat at me the rest of my life. I haven’t told ANYONE but her and this post. I’m scared to ever get a partner bc then I’d have to tell them (or else it would eat at me!) and who would love me after that?!? And I don’t think I’d ever tell a therapist either.
so I just need advice on all of that
thank you everyone and sorry