Does a new child change one’s perspective of life ?
Ok so I’ve been feeling depressed and sad , I don’t basically enjoy anything in life due to the fact I’ve been trying to get over my ex for the last 1 year . Deep down I some how held hope that maybe someday we would get back but I guess that ship has sailed . last week my new girlfriend told me she was pregnant but I didn’t feel any sense of joy, so I just wanted to ask guys , will having a baby change my perspective of life ? Will I be able to finally find something to make me forever forget my ex ?
@tealKiwi2767 congratulations ❤ having a child is the most life changing experience ever, the love and joy that child will bring you, is something you could never imagine ❤❤ the closest thing to heaven is a child, a true blessing 🙂❤ you are very a very lucky man ❤❤
Thank you, I’ve been struggling to live so I’m praying the child gives me a new perspective of life .
thank you for your nice words and encouragement.
@tealKiwi2767 your gonna be a great dad ❤ this child is very lucky ❤ and this little miracle will help you get through anything ❤ sorry your struggling though🙁 I'm here if there's anything I can do ❤
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I am afraid it's not your (soon) new born baby or your new girlfriend that could change your attitude - but that is YOU.
How would you feel about putting a stop to ruminating about and idealising the past, and starting to live here and now?
I believe a person who bears your child deserves care and respect, and some special place in your life, no matter what are the feelings between the two of you like.
Your child is going to be your new centre of the world.
If you are feeling depressed, becoming a father is quite challenging, and it may not make you feel less depressed. So, I believe, you deserve some care for yourself, too.
From my experience becoming a parent is an immense joy, but also a great responsibility.
It's no longer about just you, but now you will be responsible for giving a good start to a new person. It's mostly in your hands now, if your daughter or son one day says "I grew up in a loving and supportive family" or be going from one therapy to another.
I would take it as a wake up call for you.
It will definitely change your perspective on Life but even people who are willing and ready to have kids find it an incredibly challenging (and often rewarding) commitment. You don’t have a kid temporarily, that is a commitment you make until the end of your Life. Emotionally and financially.
Bringing someone into this World who didn’t ask to be here is an immense responsibility. I agree with the person who said take this as a wake up call. And if you’re not seeing a professional therapist yet, I would suggest seeing one for this.
Wishing you clarity and strength, may things unfold the way they’re meant to and may you put in the effort for them to work out that way
As a recently new father. Yes it will indeed change your outlook on life! It will change everything! Ive made many mistakes in a short amount of time and regret tons. But my daughter is a blessing. My best friend and wife gave me a miniature version of us! My wife is amazing. I wish i were as amazing as her! Shes the reason i have this app and am seeking help.
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Thank you @DeepaR21 I am honestly trying my best to move on and like you said I know I made a mistake but not healing before entering a new relationship and later finding out I’m still stuck. I will try therapy as recommended I know I would be a good father and put my kids first .
its been difficult but I’m going to work hard to get over it cos the trauma bond has basically halted my life.
@tealKiwi2767
You're very aware and conscious of what you feel, think and why you did what you did. These are the signs of a healthy person who is striving hard consistently to shape ones life in a beautiful way. I'm very proud you bro! Take care. Bbye!