im lost and lonely
I lost my two closest friends in a matter of days after a misunderstanding. They accused me of something I didn't do, and despite explaining my side, they didn't believe me. One of them refused to talk about it, while the other called me narcissistic and chose to distance herself completely. Although I tried to move on, the betrayal has deeply impacted me, leaving me with trust issues that I'm still trying to heal from. Recently, one of them reached out, but it felt superficial, and I'm unsure if I should even re-engage, as I'm not sure if I can trust them anymore. Now, I'm left with a few new friends, but they feel distant, untrusting, or disrespectful, and I don't feel the same depth of connection I once had. I'm struggling with the lack of real, trusting connections, and sometimes, the pain from the past still lingers. I would love to find at least one person that i could have deep talks with them like i had with those two.
@Josh44 I'm so sorry sweetie 🙁 friendships are complicated things🙁 especially when trust becomes an issue, sits beside you and hugs you tightly 💗 I guess in the heat of a moment people can turn on even their best friends, simple misunderstanding can ruin relationships. So think carefully before ignoring the one who reached out, or before hearing them out. Good luck with everything💗💗💗
Your story resonates with me so much. I had gone through a very similar situation my sophomore year of high school. Losing your two closest friends so unexpectedly is one of the worst feelings. I remember struggling to find belonging again after the whole situation happened. I want you to know, from someone who has come out the other side of it, it does and will get better. This is a transition period for you. Please keep in mind as you’re grieving the lost relationships, these heavier feelings are temporary and you will find that place of Community again, sometimes in the most unexpected ways.
@arossius would you mind giving a bit more details of your story? i am very interested in hearing what happend to you
Sure, it was basically due to a sort of love triangle. It became a bit of an over complicated mess, but in short what happened was I had developed feelings for one of my friends (we’ll call her OJ) and we were kinda figuring it out. Turns out the other friend (EZ) also had feelings for me. EZ started to interpret my behavior with her as a sign that I was attracted to her but I had only ever viewed her as a friend. EZ didn’t know OJ and I were thing, and once she found out she told OJ that I was giving her signals behind OJ‘s back. At the end the two of them met me for lunch one day and they broke off our friendship, accusing me for cheating. It was a really heartbreaking situation that honestly only happened because of a miscommunication. I still hold them dear to my heart because they were both such beautiful friends before the whole situation.
