Worried I did something wrong.
My friend and I got close fast at our jobs (we work two different places together) and recently she has had a lot of stuff going on in her life. She kinda closed off herself to me, and rarely keeps a conversation going on text but in person we joke and everything seems completely fine.
I want to ask her if Ive upset her or anything because I constantly feel like I'm a burden on people and am scared to ask because of simply "getting in my own head" too often. I'm worried that I'm making all the stress up in my head but don't know what to do anymore. It's like two different people between text and I'm person and I'm so messed up thinking I'm a problem constantly in friendships. I stress until I'm nauseous, and I'm so mentally tired from myself.
@fairmindedBalsam4236 I have experienced texts with friends sometimes feel off. I decided to let my insecurity just be an emotional phenomenon that occurs in my head and wait for the next time I talked to my friend on the phone or in person to gauge the situation. The experience in voice to voice or face to face always suggested the friendship was fine. It’s maybe not necessary for you to ask your friend anything if you notice that over time the friendship is solid. And eventually you’ll accept that the pattern in texts is benign. It doesn’t mean a thing.
Thank you this was what I needed to hear. I quit listening to the voice in my head and just text as if nothing was wrong and was a bit loose than I usually am and my friend responded within a few minutes. It's all in my head and I've gotta just take your advice moving forward so thank you!
The burden part is so real🙁. When I first started university I had to make new friends and I was constantly thinking whether they like my presence or not. But fastforward now I wouldn't have good friends if it weren't for me getting out of my comfort zone.
I still do overthink sometimes but i felt that the best way to avoid it is by starting my day with positive affirmations. For example I might tell myself " today I am going to have a great time talking to my friend that loves hanging out with me. She enjoys me being around and we are going to have so much fun together". Blow away the negative thoughts and self-criticism you think about yourself and try to enjoy the conversation instead.
Hope this helped💗
Also wanted to say that maybe since your friend has a lot of stuff going on in her life she is busy when you text her. Since she shows that she enjoys your presence in real life she probably isn't upset with you. So dont let those negative thoughts take over you🙂