What would you do
I have this friend that seem to going a very dark time , everytime we hang out as couples they always want get our opinion on their relationship or sometimes they don’t even care to ask they tell us like Trauma dumping. I been told her that they shouldn’t be together but she like he’s the best it’s going to get not only they get into Arguments in front of us andshe tears him down /embarrass him a lot
in front of us and also will ask me my boyfriend personal questions about our Relationship . It just makes me very uncomfortable And I’m not really sure what to say the last time we hung out that was two days ago and I for sure want to talk to her about her behavior, but I’m not sure how to come about it. We’ve been friends forever very long time in and out. What would you say? What would you do?
@adaptableMoon1894
That is a big item to deal with and not hurt your friendship.
Some people seem to have no boundaries or feel everyone wants to share their complete details. Perhaps you can just approach her with the truth that some discussions of a personal nature make you and your BF uncomfortable, You could discuss boundaries and if she talks about personal things or fights in front of you perhaps you can excuse yourself and say something like " it sounds like you need some alone time without an audience" and then leave. Only takes once maybe twice and most get the hint that you are NOT interested in being witness to the dysfunction.