Need help getting out of a friendship
A couple of months ago i realized that a person who i considered my best friend really mistreated me (ignoring boundaries, never letting me speak, ignoring chronic illness, etc) and i’ve been trying to phrase the issues i have in a constructive way that doesn’t put all of the blame on them to share. It’s not going well and i had a panic attack because of it. I currently have a rough draft, could anyone help out? it doesn’t have to be really accurate i just don’t think i can do this by myself..
@inventiveCircle8972
When we put these thing together we anticipate how they will take it / what they will think/ and it seldom works. There are no right words ... no magic phrases. Are you writing words you will say or are you giving them a letter...?
when you put on paper each time they re read they can guess did you mean it this way or that way? .... it becomes a big mess of trying to read minds .... Perhaps short and sweet is best
just tell them "this is no longer working in my life as a friendship, best wishes in your future life.." .
if you are trying to explain where things went wrong........ that is not ending friendship .. It is trying to make them change to be the friend you want... and that never works
i would but our lives are really intertwined. we go to the same school, have several mutual friends, our parents communicate regularly. i would have to explain over and over and over again that we no longer communicate and have to hear something along the lines of “you’re crazy, they’re a really nice person” or “you’re being dramatic”. i want to try to talk about these issues and try and solve them but if they remain i will have to completely cut ties.
@inventiveCircle8972
If you have firm reasons discuss with parents since this entanglement will most likely not make it easy.
But in the end you do not have to feel obligated to be friends with someone by proximity or the fact others in family are friends. You do not need to justify to others about who you want or no longer want as a friend.