My friendship with my best friend changed
We're been best friends since years. It all started with writting, and our common interest in books. Little by little, we became a trio of three friends, one younger than us. When we were younger, we used to play together and do montages, but now we barely see each other. She was always interested in popularity, and hurt me before for being friend with my enemy, a girl who I hated. She doesn't know how to say no, and now when we only have one class in common, she always talks to a girl that bullied me before. She's super annoying and says weird stuff about me, and she still sits next to her. Because she wanted to be nice? She tells me she doesn't dislike anybody , which to me doesn't make sense. I feel like she doesn't understand me, our conversations are always small talks. I talked to her about the girl, and said I couldn't be friend with a girl that likes people that hurt me. She said she didn't like her, but our conversations are always cut by this girl. I feel like we don't have the same vibe as we did before.
If she still talks to you one on one, then your friend still likes you very much.
For me, it takes a great deal of energy to have an enemy. It drains me of energy to dislike someone actively, I can still talk with someone and really not have any emotional attachment to them if I don’t like them. And then I save my actual emotional attachment to those who I like, Though someone observing Might say that I’m generally friendly To pretty much everyone.
Being angry at somebody energizes some people. And I bet you do have very good reasons To dislike that person, And I bet most people in your shoes would also be very angry with her. So you may not angry at anyone, You just have no choice when you meet a very rotten person.
However, that anger may protect you by giving you energy To stay away From that person and not let her hurt you again. So, in this case, the anger may energize you For self protection.
However, anger Does the opposite to me, And maybe it does the opposite your friend. Anger wears me out and drains me, It wrecks my energy and my happiness.
So you may be asking her to expand a huge amount of energy on someone that you don’t like, When in fact, she is just saving her energy for people like you who she has always liked and she still does.
But that Girl who is always cutting off your conversations clearly is jealous of you and insecure, And she has a rotten heart, And karma will catch up to her.
Do not let the rotten girl interrupt your sentence to your friend, Practice ignoring her completely and continuing your conversation with your friend until you’re done talking. Do not give her the power Of interrupting you and cutting you off. People like that You don’t win over with kindness, and you don’t punish with anger, Because you being angry, makes her feel like she has won. You punish her by completely ignoring her like she just does not matter, and nothing That she could say or do or interrupt Would affect you whatsoever.
