Lonely
Hi,
I've joined 7cups for a few reasons. I (31f) just feel so lonely, even though I'm married to a great person, I'm lonely. I have zero friends or other relationships and I'm desperate for some kind of interaction. I miss conversations and someone just caring without it turning into something else, you know?
Anyone else in the same boat?
@Sapphorion
There are many of us in this boat... it sucks when you feel lonely in a marriage ...
does he talk with you about anything? is all just assumed he knows your thoughts on things? mine would buy me things to eat or drink i hate ....but he says "no it is your favorite" ... his favorite not mine but it showed me that he thinks i am just an extension of him and he has little interest in me as a person.
Mine does not talk / chat or care about my opinions .....and so i found a work friend i can discuss current events or anything that pops up ... i also have an online male friend that i can discuss anything with too we joke and chat ....
now some people would say i am emotionally cheating because i have people i can talk about feelings/ events / plans etc.... but i say find someone to talk and if they have different views it helps you grow and learn too.... it is important to have an outlet.
That's the one thing, the thought of emotionally cheating. My partner has a work friend who they speak to and other people who they speak to. I don't know what they speak about but my partner has those avenues and yet I feel I'd be cheating if I did the same.
@Sapphorion
it is NOT cheating in any way.... ..... it actually helps.......... if i get my need to talk and then i am not frustrated when they are more into a video game or TV then chatting with me. . they are not frustrated that i am trying to start a conversation while they watch some movie for like the 7th time.
some people IMO who are/ were very insecure make anything as a problem then are confused as to why their relationship are bad.
Why we chose to talk with others ....maybe we get the bobble-head effect from a partner or they cannot or will not have discussions because they have no interest or knowledge in what we want want to talk about. Perhaps we get tired of the fake agree with us just to shut us down....
If I could like this 1000x I would.
There are so many times that I'll literally be belittled or teased because I enjoy history or science videos or facts over The Kardashians.
I get asked to "tell a story" I. E. talk about the videos I listened to while driving in the day to put them to sleep... I mean come on...
@Sapphorion