Literally lonely
I’m trying so hard to make connections. I know myself, and without work over the weekend there’s no response when I reach out, no contact or connections, and I go days without anyone talking to me.
if I were to put my problems up on a wall I would take them back every time, but geez why is this getting to be so hard?
I came here tonighr,because I too feel lonely.
Perhaps we can share something about ourselves here to help each other. Worth a try, I guess.
I had no friends growing up. My identical twin and I played together - which was enough. Before I was a teenager, I did not feel lonely because I could go and feed young elephants by merely walking a few minutes from my parebts house .
I grew up with wild animals in Africa. Just walking outside was an adventure, becauase the chances of being chased by hippo's, or lions, or leopards or buffalo, was at times an every day reality. Every day could ve an adventure, merely to avoud being hurt or killed by some wild animal.
In my mid 20's I experienced loneliness again.
I will turn 50 in a few months. I still do not have friends. Too much focused on work, and no social life.
My one friend lives far away... in Africa. I live in the USA for almost a decade now. I should make much more of an effort to make friends.
Maybe..sharing this here will have some meaning. Maybe the safe, mundane existence in the USA (which I really do appreciate!) contributes to my sense of loneliness?
Your thoughts?
Interesting story--growing up with elephants in your backyard!! I am sorry for your situation and the long-term pain it has put you in. I am praying for you as i type.
i too am going through terrible loneliness. What i am experiencing is called "pathological loneliness". I just learned what it was this week. Apparently, it is formed when you have an especially bad dysfunctional relationship with a malignant narcissist, you develop what is known as a trauma bond. I am currently going through a divorce that is actually killing me. I hate he for all the horrible things she did to me, but at the same time love her desperately and addictively because of this trauma bond. It is like cult brainwashing or Stockholm syndrome. the pain it produces actually is physically painful -- like what PTSD survivors experience.
thanks for letting me share.
It is good to share to process feelings and emotions.
Having experience with loneliness, divorce and PTSD, the road - the journey - is a familiar one. Divorce reveals a lot - as much about oneself as about the nature of one ex.
It gets better, the hardship, and much sooner than expected. It really does! What is impirtant is to really take care of your health. Megnesium, vutamin C and D, snd B12, excercise,clean water and plenty of fresh oxygen. It makes a big isitive difference in how you feel.
in addition - for men going through a divorce - maybe listening to audio books (or reading the hardcopies) like "The Unplugged Alpha" by Rich Cooper, or "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi, may help.
@EyeoftheElephant
thanks for the suggestions. I will get the books tomorrow.
I just got back from going out for dinner sole -- met some people at the restaurant to talk with. it was such a wonderful experience. I guess forcing yourself to get out there is half the battle. great people are available out there we just need to seize on it. Merry Christmas!
@EyeoftheElephant
HI again-
Came across this song about loneliness. Pretty true lyrics and a good tune!!
https://youtu.be/r1XamG4uQYE
That is a good song. Full of energy. Thanks for sharing..
Do whatever helps to increase your mental and physcal energy. Music. Exercise. Nutrients. Conversations with people.
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