Kinda lonely and looking for a friend.
Hi, I am pretty new to this app. I've struggled with connecting with people most of my life. Im not a confident person but in real life people tend to think I am and that I'm secure. Im really not, but I just don't want to shatter their image of me. Its happened a few times but... thats another story. Anyways, I've been lonely for a few years now. Recently I've noticed how its starting to leak into other aspects of my life and I don't think its a good idea to choke this out for another year and a half. Many people around me know i'm alone. Most just dont give a crap. I don't know if anyone will reach out but I just want to warn you before hand. Im a pretty pessimistic person, I lack self esteem, I'm pretty blunt, and I don't have very good social skills due to... circumstances. I understand if that is all offputing. I just wanted to shoot my shot here. A little more about me is that im in the 16-18 age range so if anyone is still interested it would be great if you reached out. Im probably being too hopeful right now and I can't understand why someone would want to talk to me because I probably sound like a pretentious a-hole but I just wanted to try. Thank you for reading. Hope you have a great day/ night!
Dont worry i wont judge you and i would like to talk with . Its normal that we always tent to have a negative aspect about everything . @blueOcean2408
Hi, I think I understand your feelings. I'm going through this myself. I am the same age group of yours
@blueOcean2408 Hey there, thank you for sharing this. It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there, especially when you’re feeling low. I know it can feel like nobody truly sees or cares about what you’re going through, but just know you’re not alone in this.
You’re already taking a big step by trying to connect here, even if it feels daunting. It’s okay to not have it all figured out none of us do. The fact that you’re aware of how loneliness is impacting your life is a sign you care about yourself enough to want change, and that’s huge.
Don’t be too hard on yourself for being pessimistic or blunt. Those aren’t flaws; they’re just parts of who you are right now, shaped by your experiences. And the good news is, you can grow from here. Building connections takes time, and it’s okay to start small like this post.
If you ever feel like diving into self-improvement or tackling self-esteem and social skills, I wrote an e-book, The Silence, that might help. It’s a guide to overcoming fear, anxiety, and building a stronger mindset. No pressure, but if you’re interested, you can find it here: The Silence.
You’re more than enough as you are, and I hope this space brings you the connections you’re looking for. Hang in there, and take it one step at a time. 🤍
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