How?
My best friend and I have been rocky since the start of the year and events transpired. In short, currently I do have depression and today, we tried to communicate again because I was told that I lack communication. Now that we have communication, nothing seems to be better and I’m currently stuck in my depressive episode and I need help.
Ever since she has changed her job and gotten into a relationship, she has changed. I understand people do change and I have been desperately wanted to accept the change. However, I’m finding it hard to do so because of my depression. I tend to overthink and get stuck in a never ending loop when I’m having my episode. I need help in managing and coping. How do I do that? I do want to save the friendship but looking at the way things are progressing, it doesn’t seem like it’s going to be possible unless I get a better hold of my depression.
@cyanMoon6064
You managed the hard first part in recognizing the problems both that people do change in new jobs/ relationships and recognizing your depression is a contributing factor...
People need growth and change and embracing that is the only way to deal with it ... learn about the new things she is doing to try to get a glimpse of her changes... think about what changes you might like to make it is easier to change when you have a friend in your corner.
I don’t know what are the changes I want to make. With my current state, it’s really hard to see anything. And I also don’t how know to start talking about it.
@cyanMoon6064
I think most items are left unsaid because we do not know where to start ... waiting for the "right" time and so forth.....
I might say something like ...
"it must be great, a new job and your relationship going well ...perhaps we can make time to spend together like we used to and you can tell me all about the changes in your life.... I too am hoping to make some changes and think it could be motivational to talk to someone in the middle of exciting life changes"
this compliments her and acknowledges her growth and many people love to talk about themselves. who knows maybe she has new connections that could help you with your own changes some of the best moves i made were connecting with new people because a friend was at a new job etc.
