Update: dad and his wife
I wasn’t feeling very well because of a stomach ache and both my dad and his wife knew that. I looked clearly tired the whole day and was taking medicine and placing heating pads for some comfort. My dad usually leaves his phone turned on in case I needed anything. At night I vomited and was feeling really shaky and needed help so I texted him and his phone was switched off. A few moments later I hear them being physically intimate. Im upset that the one time I needed help from my dad, he wasn’t there. Do I have the right to be upset about this? Am I being too much?
@elena01
You're not being too much at all. Your feelings are completely valid. When you're sick and vulnerable, it's natural to want comfort and support from the people who are supposed to be there for you. The fact that your dad usually keeps his phone on shows that he understands the importance of being available so it makes sense that you'd feel hurt and let down when he wasn’t.
It’s frustrating and disappointing when the people we count on don’t show up the way we need them to, especially in moments when we feel helpless. You deserved to be checked on, to feel reassured, and to know that someone was there for you. That didn’t happen, and it makes sense that you’re upset.
Please don’t second-guess your emotions. You’re not overreacting you’re just expressing a very real hurt. I hope you’re starting to feel a little better physically, and I also hope you give yourself permission to process these feelings without guilt. You deserve care, support, and to have your needs acknowledged.