Is this normal?
I want to know if I’m being too sensitive and this is normal in families or if there serious underlying emotional pain with my parents.
my mother told me that because she is my mom and gave birth to me, I cannot be upset with her about anything ever and I should just bite my tongue all the time. Is that normal?
my mother has also insulted me (called me a *** for wearing a cleavage showing tank top, etc) and then said it doesn’t count as an insult because she was just messing around. Is that normal?
my father said I would be an idiot if I quit the job I have that I hate because it’s a good job and I should keep it then transfer to different locations. That’s his dad advice. Is that normal?
my mother also says I’m too sensitive, argumentative, and need to get over everything. She’s never apologized to me ever in her life. Is that normal?
keep in mind, I’m an adult with my own income living by myself. Are these normal things in family and am I just being sensitive when they are messing around?
@drzombienoodles
The way I feel about after reading your message:
Being a parent does NOT entitle anybody to insult their children.
Being a parent does NOT entitle anybody to abuse their children mentally by making them suffer from a parent's bad moods or bad manners with no chance to sign out or fight back.
Being angry sometimes (especially when feeling mistreated) is one of the most universal human emotions and CANNOT be forbidden.
It is definitely NOT a good idea to give children advice by (indirectly, but still) using insulting names to them.
However, sometimes even an advice given in a too harsh and offensive way may be a good advice, if I put emotions aside, asking myself what would be best for me. Once I've lost one of the best opportunities in my life (or the only one), because the right advice was given by a wrong person (my father) and in a wrong way.
And NO - I don't think you are oversensitive feeling uncomfortable while offended and denied some basic human rights, like: to be respected, to be not abused, and to have your own feelings, no matter if they can be regarded "right" or "wrong" by anyone else.