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Caregiver for elder family members

I am a new caregiver to my parents. Both parents were independent until recently. Both took a bad fall last month and now require my help around the house.


My parents are very independent and very resistant to my help. Both are having a huge problem accepting that they need help. They really do not like me helping them because it is a big role reversal for them.


But, I am the only family member who is able to help at this time.


Does anyone out there have any advice on how I can help my parents feel more comfortable accepting my help?


Thank you.

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@compassionateHuman5626

Have you told them something like  " I  know it is temporary (insert detail ) and you want to help them for all they have done for you etc..." 

most feel like if it is a GIFT of help and service it would be rude to resist and reject. 

It will still be an issue as you may not do things they way they would do it etc  ....  but some have also lightened the situation by talking and sharing fun memories or asking them about themselves when they were younger or tell you something you do not know about them ..... enjoy the time get to know them deeply as this maybe your chance to find this out.... many do not get that chance and only know it when it is too late. 

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LittleSodo May 4th
It sounds like you're facing a challenging situation as a new caregiver to your parents, especially with their resistance to accepting help. Have you tried having open and honest conversations with them about how you can support them while respecting their independence?