Quick question?

@JossyStar0 How does it feel to be the perfect favorite child? Good question

I know someone whose childhood was like that, always perfect, always the favourite. She grew up secretly feeling she was an imposter, and was terrified of failure, but she hid it for years until real life struck. She's now legally detained in a psychiatric hospital after her latest breakdown, but medication is helping and there's a good chance she'll be out quite soon.

Of course, everyone's life is different.

But it doesn't seem like your mother is really being as helpful as she could be to either of you. I wonder whether that's something you might be able to discuss with her, one day.

If you'd ever like to chat about the situation, feel free to click on my profile picture and message me.

Charlie

I understand how you feel like a failure at this moment. You have lacked the proper parental support in your life that helps you feel good about yourself, especially since you are in an environment where you are constantly being compared to someone else. I understand how disheartening this is to go through. You want to know what it is like to be the perfect child. From my experience, I can tell you that it is very difficult. The expectations are always extremely high and very rarely when "goals" are reached, are they appreciated or acknowledged with love. That's because those goals are expected. And anything short of those high expectations are not received very well. Usually when expectations are not met, there is a lot of anger. Anc expectations are always what the parent wants, not the child. And some expectations are impossible to reach and also unreasonable. I understand that you feel lesser than her because she is favorited over you and that she gets everything that she wants. It's tough. But at the same time this situation is teaching you a lesson to value and love yourself. You are worthy. You just need to recognize it and remind yourself that you are.