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Pressure from family

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My older sister has a lot of mental health problems and my parents blame me for all of her issues. It’s terrible, they outright tell me it’s my fault she is depressed and it’s my fault she has no friends. She’s really mean to me so I don’t like her, I know I could be nicer but being told it’s my fault if she harms herself has taken a huge toll on me. I’ve also been told that any other issues in the family that exist are my fault as well. I’m just a kid, this is so much to carry constantly. 

I don’t want to live at home anymore, I can’t be responsible for my families issues, but I will never be financially stable enough to leave. I’m stuck. I can’t talk to them about it because when I say “you can’t blame me for her problems,” they say “yes we can, it’s your fault.” So basically there’s no hope.  

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courteousOcean9942 OP June 2nd
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I love my family as well, they’re not terrible or anything, but I just feel so stuck.


Rizuemu000 June 15th
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I'm really sorry you're going through this. It's totally unfair to be blamed for your sister's problems or anything else in your family... Being stuck in that kind of situation must feel so overwhelming, But I want you to know that what they're saying doesn't define who you are or your value. You deserve to have people who support and understand you, not this blame and guilt :( DONT FEEL LIKE THIS!!

It might help to talk to someone outside of your family about what's going on, maybe a teacher, a counsellor, or another adult you trust? Sometimes getting a different perspective can make a big difference. 
Just remember, none of this is your fault, okay? You deserve to feel safe and supported at home, no matter what. 

akunknown June 15th
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@courteousOcean9942

Oh man do I know about pressure from family as I’ve been constantly getting it since I was born. It’s mainly been from my toxic mother but over time my stepdad, one of my older sisters and sometimes my brother too but he pressures me the least out of all the aforementioned family members so most of the time I can tolerate him. 

I’m sorry you’re being blamed for all of the problems happening in your family. I’ve experienced that too. So I know how much it sucks. But there’s always a way out so never lose or give up on hope about that. Is there any friends or other family members like cousins or anyone like that you can stay with to at least reduce the mistreatment of the family members you live with??? Or anyone you trust enough to talk to about this? You can message me if you wanna talk about it with me. 


courteousOcean9942 OP June 26th
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@akunknown I’m afraid there isn’t anyone I can stay with, but it’s alright. I appreciate your kind words a lot :)

GisaTheListener June 29th
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@courteousOcean9942

Hi CourteousOcean,

It sounds incredibly overwhelming to feel blamed for your sister's issues and to be shouldering such a heavy burden at home.

It must be really difficult to hear those accusations from your parents and to feel trapped in a situation where you don't feel understood or supported.

How have you been coping with all of this on your own?

courteousOcean9942 OP July 2nd
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@GisaTheListener

i haven’t really been coping I don’t have a way to


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