Mother - daughter issues
Hi, I haven’t had the best relationship with my mom since she was emotionally abusive. I believe it’s because she didn’t heal from childhood trauma and putting it out her kids. I no longer live with my parents anymore, but I never understood how can they neglect their children. They yelled at us, insulted us and gave me no support. My dad was cheating on her and passed on a STI to my mom. Instead of going to the doctor, my mom tried doing detoxes and getting skin creams. Sometimes I wondered if she knew it was an STI and she is in the denial. And she did nothing different around me. She didnt try to keep everything sanitized or restrict contact. She went on her life like it was nothing. Not even considering she could have ruined my life, also. I suggested to her go to a doctor but said they will give her meds and it’s not what she wanted. I never told her I thought it was a STI because I didn’t have in me to say it. I want to move on from this and forgive her. Any help, please?
@Jam34598767
I am sorry your childhood was so traumatic. I can relate to having a mother that was raised in an unhealthy situation and how that effected my growing up. In terms of her STI, you've likely done all you can to help her but suggesting she see a doctor for treatment. As much as you'd like to help, and knowing it's for her own good, she has to make the choice to go on her own terms. I understand how frustrating and upsetting that feels seeing her in denial. How to forgive and move on is different for everyone, since each of us has our own journey. Sometimes, talking about the trauma you experienced can be helpful. I hope you will find support in our community.
