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Is this bad enough for me to call for help?

BumbleKitty October 8th, 2022

TW: mentions of drug abuse/addiction, inappropriate behavior, slight mentions of divorcement(?), and child manipulation(?) I don't know what else can be triggering, I'm not good with these things.





When I was younger I really loved and looked up to my father. Over the years, I have gotten tired of him, and can barely even be around him without being incredibly upset. I got more and more angry with him after each fight he has with my mother. He argues and yells at her a lot, and it is starting to infuriate me. Especially with the recent fights that has been going on, where he got violent and started hitting the furniture, and then tried to put all of the blame on my mother, along with attempting to guilt trip both me and my brother into believing that it is all my mother's fault. He told us that we had to choose between him or my mom, and screamed at us, demanding that we tell him that he's a terrible father. When he's not arguing with my mother, he is trying to force me into kissing him, or letting him lick my face. And when I refuse, he tries to guilt trip me again, telling me that I "don't love" him, and calling me mean words. He also tries to blame everyone for the smallest things, like when he started an entire fight with everybody in the house, because nobody knew where the TV remote was. Still trying to put the blame on everyone else but him, of course. I later found out that he smokes weed, which can explain most of all that, but I don't know how to fix it if he won't listen to anything that I say. Is this bad enough behavior for me to call for some sort of help, or anything else like that? What should I do if he won't listen to anything that I say?

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adaptableFig1408 November 26th, 2022

@BumbleKitty

I'm sorry for these kinds of situations happened. From my feeling, you are doing the right thing to ask for help. In I suggest that you can go to the police for help as soon as possible. Because listening to his words to you is a kind of moral kidnapping. You have done nothing wrong, but he is trying to use his reasoning to make you think he is right, which creates a sense of frustration. And if he beats members of your family frequently, it is considered domestic violence. But don't forget to subconsciously tell you that is wrong, then there might be a danger.