I'm Sick of this Situation
So this one has been going on for years already. I don't know if I am just "overreacting" about my parents and grandparents' way of disciplining me and my younger sister but they frequently bring their words overboard to the point that it already hurts a lot for me. I know everybody needs proper discipline but this harsh way of toxic parenting makes me have a lot of issues to myself. I started doubting in everything I do just to check if I did one thing good so my parents can be happy, I lost all my confidence and strength through toxic words they threw at me, and I can't think straight because of all the negative thoughts crowded all together in my head which leads for me not being my own self. Always in gaze. When they notice this and ask what's wrong with me, I just kept silent. I wanted to tell that it was them who made me like this but I can't. Now that my little sister is slowly experiencing this, I am worried about her and her mental sate. I don't want her to suffer the way I did.
What should I do?
I completely understand this. Ik it's impossible to say anything back because then it would just backfire. Its horrible that we can't talk to them and make them understand how we feel. I can't tell u any perfect solution, but I can tell u what I did. I just stopped obsessing over their stringent ideas of discipline and did what was best for me. I slowly worked through the fact that what they think of me is not who I am. Ofc their my parents and I live them and a lot of things that they tell me about is true and I accept that and work towards those shortcomings but otherwise I do my best to recognise that we both have different morals and values and they follow theirs and I mine. You could probably help out your sister by making sure her feeling and her personal values matter too and ask her to respect both hers and your parents views. And I think moat importantly its imperative that you let her know you'll always be on her side and she can cone to you anytime she's feeling the way you are. I just said what I personally did. Hope this helps :) And I'm sure you'll get through this :)
