Gifts and Love bombing

Hey,

I got really upset today because my parents sent me flowers, because I told them my cat has cancer. My mom has been emotionally abusive in the past. I have told her many times that her behavior hurt me and that I feel stressed spending time with her, but she just selectively forgets and insists on giving gifts. I also told her before that I have mixed feelings about gifts from her because of our past conflicts, but she said I was being negative and dismissed me.

I did tell them about my cat because I felt like I needed to not avoid telling them, but it feels like now the floodgates have opened where she is pushing to connect with me and disregard my boundaries about not wanting to connect with her again.

I sent her an email expressing how I feel. I did thank her for the flowers but expressed that what I really need is a verbal acknowledgment of my feelings of hurt. I feel like she most likely unfortunately will take it personally again, but I feel like I'm tired of being walked over and I need to just keep repeating "I am still hurting; I am still upset" even if she never accepts it because I deserve to stand up for myself and take up space.

Thanks,

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