From ME, to HER
I had a really bad childhood. Before I was used to be socially outted, bullied, and get yelled at by my parents because of the simple things I can't do or they are sick of how stupid I am and calls me "You don't have a brain" and "Use your dang mind" all over up until now. This time, my sister nearly gets the same treatment with my mom especially my dad. I know it's important being disciplined, but getting her intimidated by him is just too much. Today it also happened, and she was trying not to cry because dad keeps passing where she is. I feel really bad looking at her since I understand how she is going through as I felt the same way. We used to like having dad around the house (He's working as a seafarer) before but now we don't because it adds up another problem to our mental health issues, which is not helpful at all. How should we deal with these? What can we do?
@P3pperm1nt
I can't imagine how difficult it has been for you to grow up hearing such awful words from your parents. Being called names and having your intelligence questioned sounds like it has had such a negative impact on your mental wellbeing and self worth. It's unfair you, and your sister, have had to endure the the pain you share. It sounds like the verbal abuse you received was mostly from your mother but your sister is experiencing similar abuse and intimidation from both of your mother and father. Is that correct? Having been in the same situation, I understand the empathy you are feeling for your sister and her wellbeing. As you've shared your story, it sounds like your sister's pain is hurting you deeply as well.
It would be hard to say what to do since I'm not sure how strict your family is on your personal time. Would it be possible for you and you sister to spend time outside the home, like studying at your local library or playing sports together, for example? Would working outside the home be possible for you both? It sounds like your relationship is mutually supportive and having each other to confide in could be helpful to you both. Is there someone outside the home you could both spend time with or you would feel comfortable confiding in for extra support?
