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family bucket list 2025
by delightfulUnicorn38
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Saturday
...See more  Every new year give a chance to start  a fresh and plan amusant things to do with the kids., you can  create a Family Bucket List together   and put down all the fun things you want to do , you could  Take inspiration from the list below and add new ideas as you like Be 1.     Kind to each other 2.     Brave when you need to be 3.     More helpful around the home Try  1.     To keep your room clean (that includes Mum & Dad!) 2.     To visit somewhere cultural   3.     To read a classic   play 1.     A family board game   2.     Cards together 3.     The musical instrument you have or learn a new one Create       1.     A herb garden 2.     Memories from special days  3.     A list of new things you would like to try during the year  
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Family
by PeggyMeghan111
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January 9th
...See more My mum and my siblings are the one supposed to care for me but whenever I ask for help they are not able to support me
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hello
by romasgirl
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January 9th
...See more hello, i joined this group because i needed to talk about my family, my mom is verbally abusive, my brother is physically abusive and my sister too. i dont know how to deall with it all
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The Importance of Family
by delightfulUnicorn38
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December 17th, 2024
...See more               Everyone grown up in a family knows in their deep heart what can offer to him, lucky people have happy stable family, even an unhappy family was important too for those reasons  offering unconditional love for being a member of a family you don't need to prove anything, gives you strength and support to face difficulties, providing companionship and a sense of belonging, helps you build self-esteem; gives you a sense of security and stability, and Family teaches you moral values far away from home, the first thing you will miss is your family .                                     
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family and holidays
by delightfulUnicorn38
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December 17th, 2024
...See more In holidays most families spend time together by exchanging visits every time as a regular tradition trying to make some good memories, enjoy the sense of belonging, pass cultural values, keep all members connected Holidays have the same character but every family tries to celebrate in their own way, which gives everyone a special soul.  Here are some good ideas and activities for you and your family to share during the holidays _ starting from collecting information about the origin of those special days; the first stories, and the reason for committing every year to celebrate. _Checking the traditions of celebrating and your own beliefs and personal values, including the ceremony, dishes, and clothes, add ways to bring joy and peace to the family, and maintain the quality of the relationships. Some random fun traditions start with cleaning, decorating, playing games, visiting relatives, taking pictures, and sharing memories, you can add some or skip others as you want. 
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Update on Family Conflict
by wandamx26
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November 10th, 2024
...See more So I am having dinner with my dad and his cousins again a week after we had my grandma's funeral. However, my mom and brother want me to do something secret. You see my dad is going to divorce my mom and he is no longer on speaking terms with her and my brother. So my brother is slipping a note to one of his cousins to tell her what is going on and I have to be the one to deliver it. I am having so much anxiety because I am worried she is going to tell the rest of the family and my dad will unalive me for just being the messenger. I don't think he wants the rest of the family to know about the divorce until it is finalized. But I can't be choosing sides when it comes to this. 
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Feeling low
by yeshu
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November 10th, 2024
...See more Never got to experience care and love in the family, rather treated as a robot or some other machine who does things that they want to. no one trust each other but pays heed to other people's negative opinions about the other person. Thought let's try get a life partner whom I could share my thoughts. But I was bought up like in a cage that it is not possible to sociallise easily, and guess what even no one even shows me any interest in dating apps also. edited by the community mentor
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October Activity Calendar - Enjoy the Fun!
by Havingfuninthesnow
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November 7th, 2024
...See more I thought this would be fun to do. So sharing it with all of you. We are all big kids at hart and those that have kids or older adults can do these also. Tag your friends and enjoy in the fun!
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Considering cutting off untreated BPD mother
by Anxiouskitten23
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October 26th, 2024
...See more My mother has untreated BPD (for many years but I’ve only been able to work it out after I went into therapy 4 years ago). She has frequent episodes where she has an outburst either in person or over text, blaming me and my sibling for all of her problems, she says the most hurtful and insensitive things, and then when she’s done, she’ll pretend as if nothing happened the next day and expect us to carry on as usual…She has refused therapy or medication and thinks therapists are scam artists. She sees herself as the victim and blames everybody else for her problems…  When I was living with her I had no option but to ride this emotionally unstable wave with her and it’s had a deep impact on my mental health too to the extent that I was showing some BPD symptoms too along with ADHD and chronic anxiety…I’ve worked on this for 4 years in therapy and am able to lead a more or less “normal”life on most days.. I have a supportive partner who understands and is with me on my journey… I moved to a different country 4 years ago and started a new life there, but I’m back now for a bit to meet with my friends and family and introduce them to my baby.  Only this time I chose to live in a separate place and not with my mother. This has upset her and in her latest outburst she’s accused me of causing her heartache and sleepless nights and extreme stress…  as a mother now, I find it to be my responsibility to be a good mother to my son by managing my emotions, being emotionally stable and looking after my mental health in order to show up for my baby… but having a relationship with my mother is not letting that happen… i am considering cutting off from her as every interaction with her now is extremely draining and if I continue, I will only be spending more and more time in therapy to deal with it all…  My sibling and I don’t openly talk about my mothers condition to friends and family because we want to protect her reputation as we come from a culture that frowns upon speaking ill of your parents…But it’s becoming a big burden now… I feel terribly guilty and ashamed even by the thought of it. But something needs to change if I have to break this cycle and protect my child from this…  Any advice or personal experiences would be really appreciated, thank you so much. 
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Is it okay to want space from your family?
by MysteriouslyFound1893
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October 13th, 2024
...See more Is it okay if on most days I need space from my parents? Is it okay if on most days I just need the affection and acknowledgement? It is okay if on most days I want to just be away from this place, anywhere but here?
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Parents Arent There (Triggering)
by ItsPreeti
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October 13th, 2024
...See more We keep seeing Öh mother but some of us never had good memories with our mother/father. We had parents but not in actual-so we dont miss them when gone . Share your note what you would like to say to your parent/parents. Whether its stressed out or caring doesnt matter-share it . A note to a parent which you felt must have been understood . And incase you loved them-share that note too. 
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Estranged from parents
by convivialCurrent1937
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October 12th, 2024
...See more Two years ago I decided to cut contact with my parents. I don't want to go into full detail why I made that decision as there are many reasons which would take a very long time to type out. A shortened version is my mum kicked me out of the house because i went out and wouldnt tell her where (I was 28) and then when I moved out she proceeded to make false allegations about me to other family members and then told lies about trying to unalive herself. Unfortunately this isn't bad mental health, just years of awful behaviour finally coming to a point that I could no longer accept. Although he has calmed down a lot as he has gotten older my dad used to be a very violent and angry man. Never violent to me, but towards my mum - who would tell me he do the same things to me when I was older 😳 Most of the time I'm happy with my decision. I accept that my parents will never change their behaviours and that they don't see anything wrong in the things they've done and that contact with them will only cause me more stress and pain. However, they're getting older now (I think 65 and 70), so they don't have all the time in the world left. I can't help but wonder if I'll regret my decision after they're gone and it's too late. And then I look around and see other parents treating their children with kindness and I just wonder what's so wrong with my parents that they don't even care to speak to their kids. I know i cut contact, but my parents dont speak to my brother and come up with lies like not having his phone number (i gave it to them and when my brother called my dads phone my brothers name came up 🤨) My mum says he talks to much so she doesn't want to speak to him. Yes, he can be a lot, but that's her son! I just don't understand why any parent would act this way. But I have to just accept it. I can't change them. I just hate that I know the way they are has shaped me as a person. The only person I can really talk to about my parents is my brother because he's the only person who understands how they act and what they've done. I dont know, I just think people can't comprehend that anyone could just not care about their kids. Like, we were watching a documentary about a murderer a few weeks ago and his mum was calling him and visiting him in prison and my brother said 'that guy murdered someone, and his mum treats him better than our mum treats me.'  sorry for the lack of structure in this post, i just needed to have a vent!

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