Need someone to talk to
Hi, im not new to this app but i recently left because i thought i don't need it anymore but now i feel like things are getting bad again so yeah im back.
I really need someone to talk to about my (possible) ed. I have history of binging although im not actually diagnosed but im pretty sure eating days worth of snack in one night is binging. or eating a huge amount of food when no one is around isn't a good sign.
I recently try to find a listener and vent a bit and she told me to "drink more water and stop" which is not really helping as if i do not want to stop. maybe they were right and i am too sensitive. but maybe right now i need a listener that understand about what im going through.
thank you, x
@matchamochi07. The thing about drinking more water, it will actually get you hungrier. There is no fiber in water so it's going to digest very fast. I don't know how to help. The best foods to eat are fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Eat 3 times a day because if you skip a meal it will mess up your eating habits. Skipping meals would make you crave food more. I did hear if people eat fast they end up overeating so maybe eat slowly. If you are eating foods you don't like then you will crave food you do like and probably end up eating too much. Maybe do an activity to keep your mind off of eating too much. I hope some of these ideas will help you. Stay positive. I wish you the best.
@matchamochi07
Thank you for posting this. I needed to see that someone else too is realizing that you need help with a possible ED and ... even just your post's title.
Then to at least partially answer your questions:
I do know we have a *ton* of listeners here at 7cups. I would encourage you to try another 1-1 listener chat. It sounds like maybe the person you talked with was not as knowledgeable about your issues or maybe not able to help you for a number of other reasons. I'm sure the Listener did the best he/she could. :)
But, in my experience, it is really hard when I need to talk or vent or cry *with* someone - another human being, who will acknowledge that we are both human beings and therefore not perfect - when I need to talk with someone, but they really do not understand what I need. Example: Do I need an idea for supper? Do I need their time, to very much simply listen to me? Do I want advice or resources?
I'll be the first to say that often *I* am not sure what it is that I do want. And that can make it hard for the other person too.
I'm not sure if this is helpful for you at all. But I did want to encourage you to try perhaps a different Listener here, in 1-1 chat. Did you know that you can put filters on the search at the Browse Listeners page? You can add age or nationality. You can ask for specific topics - like only listeners who have "Eating Disorders" as a topic that Listener feels comfortable talking and listening about. Umm, that was a complicated sentence. Make any sense for you?
You can surely write to me here too, if you'd like. I'm hoping for you good health and for you to find a 'just right' someone to talk with - here at 7cups or IRL, ideally both! Having someone who knows what it's like can be very helpful in working toward a better relationship with food. <3 Platy
