Fear, guilt, procrastination and emotional eating
Hello :)
I am Mohit, 24 years old
I have been a procrastinator right from the childhood.
I fear making a mistake so much that I find it really difficult to even start a task.
I have tried my level best to overcome this limitation, it's been years but I am still hoping for a way out.
This really makes me feel very guilty about myself that I am not good enough and I basically waste the whole day in this pattern of fear-procrastination-guilt.
And the pain of feeling this way is so much that, food is the only rescue I see that would make me feel better.
I indulge into a lot of emotional eating on most days, again this also fuels my guilt. Feels really bad that why have I not been able to break through these limitations despite working on myself.
I am still hopeful and trying to break through this pattern, but many a times I feel paralyzed in face of my fears and especially when I fail once, I find it difficult to get started again.
I appreciate you for reading till here, thank you :)
@bestSailboat8065 Hello, Mohit. It sounds like you're feeling a lot of fear and guilt, and these are eating away at your self esteem, causing you to procrastinate and indulge in emotional eating. Making mistakes is part of being human, it's how we learn. It's natural that as you challenge yourself, you will sometimes fall short. Doing everything perfectly the first time isn't a realistic expectation, and it can prevent you from trying things at all. One thing that might help you overcome your procrastination is to break down tasks into smaller pieces that don't feel as intimidating or difficult so that there's less of a hurdle in getting started.
Guilt can only tear you down and make you feel miserable. It cannot prevent you from making mistakes, neither can it undo mistakes you have already made. Guilt focuses your attention on what you've done wrong, and keeps you from thinking about what you can do better in future and learning from your mistakes.
These resources may be helpful to you: https://www.7cups.com/act-therapy-techniques/ https://www.7cups.com/anxiety-help/ Feel free to message me anytime if you want to talk more about this. I hope you find peace and acceptance with yourself.
i completely understand, i am on the same page.
I have no advice for you , I understand the struggle.
The fact that you have carried all these hard emotions throughout your life shows how strong you're :)
Don't underestimate yourself , you're stronger than you think.