@lindaperson - I hate that feeling of being out of control! Have you noticed any patterns to when it comes up? When it comes to eating disorders, one thing I've found helpful is finding small things that can feel more in control to help regain some sense of equilibrium and focusing on building progress from small steps. You've posted in the binge eating forum, so I'm guessing feeling out of control may be related to the binging. Perhaps starting small and seeing if you can reassert some ownership over it yourself - even if what that means is sort of "I may still end up bingeing, but I am going to wait 10 minutes first and in those 10 minutes do something else" and then slowly extending that time until the binge urge isn't so strong. Good luck!
