A Milkshake Won't Help
This week I stopped my mother from being a used y a scammer - a person who met heron a dating site, got her to fall for him, then concocted an elaborate story resulting in him asking her to send an iPhone and Mac Book to Africa. She is very intelligent but somehow feel for it. We stopped the shipment and talked through everything for 3 days. She had a lot of realizations and was surprised at herself for falling for it and blocked him, as well as reporting. Then yesterday she decided she had to validate him, that her feelings had to have been real, re- contacted him and wired him funds from her bank account. Even the bank teller warned her this is a common scam.
Fast forward through a huge blow up between us (after weeks of calmly talking about bimand days of talking out the scam,I snapped,I will admit - this has been apologized for) and panic attack on my part, calling another,calmer and wiser family member for reinforcement, calling the guy and warning him off and my mom breaking down sobbing over her behavior. ***Supposedly*** she has learned her lesson but how can I believe it??
So, all I want to do right now is shove food inmy face and guzzle a milkshake...but my body shouldn't have to pay!!!! No stress eating, it won't solve anything!!!
@gentleEast8898 Well, I don't know. Personally, I think it's OK to be kind to yourself, especially after you've been in a fight. And you've been in a fight and won! And if a milkshake is that kindness then I think you deserve that kindness.
I understand that "no stress eating" might be a good rule, but another good rule is "no rigid rules".
What can you do about your mother, though! Is it like she has to be watched closely now, do you think?
If you'd ever like to chat about the situation, feel free to message me.
Charlie