My friend says I have skinny privilege but I feel really weird about that
I have a friend who tells me I have skinny privilege. And I guess I do? People compliment me for being skinny which is not really good for me but that’s been the case throughout my life. There were times I got teased for being too skinny. Like bony and disgusting. So I have really mixed feelings about my body. On the one hand I think I’m really ugly and undesirable on the other hand I have two romantic partners who really like my body. And then my friend says I have skinny privilege. And I guess she’s right. But at what cost? I constantly calculate calorie intake and choose foods based on how caloric they are. I also don’t eat sometimes to cut back. And since I’ve been doing that basically my whole life (when I was younger my mum used to control my calorie intake so I don’t “become overweight” and she often tells me even to this day that I should be grateful for the way she controlled my calorie intake), it’s pretty easy for me to not eat or even when I’m hungry I can quite easily ignore it. I know I shouldn’t overthink about what other people say about me but it’s very hard not to.
@nyanpupu517
It is true that we live a difficult life. First, we have to bear various external pressures, and more importantly, we have to face our own inner confusion. When you are struggling, if someone gives you an understanding look, you will feel a warmth of life, maybe just a brief glimpse is enough to make me excited, so we must learn to be grateful.
@nyanpupu517 It sounds like your friend doesn't understand the stress and negative self image that go along with anorexia nervosa. I'm hearing that you feel misunderstood and conflicted about her comment. One thing that might help when you find yourself thinking about what other people say about you is to remember that you are the expert on you. You know more about your struggles, your needs, your abilities, your hopes, and your experiences that anyone else. Allowing other people to decide how you see yourself is a bit like a doctor asking a layperson for medical knowledge; whatever you hear is likely to be less accurate than what you already know.
I hope this helps.
