Growth mindset vs parental expectations

Hi! You can call me WP. I have Dysphonetic Dyslexia and auditory processing issues, but have found my way into graduate school studying psychology. I love what I study, because I think it helps me better understand my own mind. Studying learning has helped me shed the shame I’ve felt for being a “slow processor.” I’ve really gravitated toward Dweck’s work on growth vs fixed mindset. If you haven’t heard of it, I highly recommend looking into it. It’s been really helpful in my journey of accepting and appreciating my own unique mind. It makes me want to help others better understand their own learning. However, I still have a parent that inserts small comments about my academic work. They’re subtle enough that I don’t feel like it warrants being called out, but I find myself ruminating on it and feeling negative mental talk flooding my mind again. I probably shouldn’t mention how I’m doing in school at this point, but it’s routinely asked. How do you all handle the antiquated mindsets your parents or authority figures weigh on you as you’re trying to grow? I understand what they’re implying about me isn’t true, but I still feel it’s effects. Any suggestions of how you handle situations like this, or just that you relate in some way, is really appreciated. XOXO WP