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DerpHerp1246 April 21st, 2021

How do I tell my parents I have depression when my brother has depression, but they start worrying once he mentions him being depressed. They start to make him feel worse by saying stuff like "when you say that you make me worry" or "you just need to hang out with people or make friends". My dad doesn't believe my brother has depression even though he said he has had it for all 4 years of high school and is now a freshman in college who is struggling, due to the whole pandemic, to make friends. He isn't doing well and I try sticking up for him when my mom and dad say these things, but they just get mad at me because they say it's his fault. I completely understand what's he's going through because I am dealing with it too. I have a really good and loving friend group and I am happy whenever I'm around them. However my parents don't realize my happiness is temporary, I have cried myself to sleep almost every night, I don't really feel anything other then empty or hollow. The thing is I hide this from them because my dad will just say it's nothing and my mom will just say "do you want a therapist" or "do you want to be on medication" like she's angry at the fact that I'm not okay yet she doesn't know. She doesn't know that I would be completely fine with that because it would hopefully help me, but I can't say I have this. My parents will just say we told you not to hide your emotions, but there's no way your depressed. I want to get help and I know I need help, but I don't know how to get help because my parents aren't an option, my friends help me to the best of their abilities, and 7cups is a really good source, however I think if I had in person therapy it might be better. I just don't know. Can anyone help me with my situation?

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Sunny0611 April 21st, 2021

Hey. Have you spoken to your brother about how you are feeling. Maybe you can support one another. I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. It sounds like your parents are in denial. They dont want to believe it’s real. Here for you

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DerpHerp1246 OP April 21st, 2021

@Sunny0611

I have tried talking to my brother, but he kind of says "what are you depressed about". I don't think he entirely knows how to deal with me when I say that because he thinks I'm saying it for attention, when I'm not. I support him and to me that's all that really matters. I don't entirely think he needs to support me back, but it wouldn't be a bad thing. Thank you for the help, I hope you have a wonderful day!

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Sunny0611 April 21st, 2021

I’m glad you and you brother communicate about your mental health. I’m sorry that he doesn’t take you seriously. Depression sometimes isn’t linked to just one thing and it’s ok to not know why you feel the way you do. How you feel is valid x