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Does it ever get better?

powerfulBalloon9495 February 17th, 2018

Im new to this but I thought I needed to try something new. Im in this ugly cycle where I talk to my therapist and feel better for a few days, really try hard to push those negative thoughts away and feel like Im normal, its like a constant fight going on in my mind and body but I feel like Im winning these days. Then I let one simple little thing in and it causes me to crack. I break. I cry, I yell, I crawl into bed and dont want to get out. I feel like a failure. Like Im a burden to everyone who has to see me like this. I feel like there is no point because it was so exhausting, truly physically exhausting, trying to get better and I failed. I stay in bed a few days. I wallow in self pity. I think I dont want to be here...I think whats the point. Then I try again. Its a cycle. Its a hard, scary, exhausting cycle and every time I fall its so hard to want to get back up. So does it ever get better?

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delightfulUnicorn38 March 9th, 2018

I m sorry that you have to deal with all that , it is exohsting because it is not like other illnesses no cure ,up and down all time bad days and good days but you can control that with some plans , exercising, healthy food , friends , all self care activities make things better.

I hope you 'll be better and I m here for support

Booklover95 March 9th, 2018

@powerfulBalloon9495

Yes. That's the answer, yes.

Now the question is, is it easy to get to a good place? No.

You need to work very hard.

In depression we tend to isolate ourselves and cling to our negative emotions. You can't do that. You need to get up and work hard on it.

If you can find professional help, if you can't work every single day. Try to find good things in your life, even good people to surround yourself with. Work in things you love aswell like hobbies. Work in your own self esteem and practice mindfulness.

Depression is very challenging but doesn't mean it can't be overcomed.

Best of luck.

Offmytrack March 9th, 2018

Yes, it can get better. You are the deciding factor though. You must change things within you to make yourself more accepting of who you are. I know, I went through 25 or 30 years of heavy depression. For me, the thing that helped most was recognizing that life is a challenge. Everything you do is an accomplishment. Even small, insignificant things are accomplishments. It is a long, tedious process to pull yourself up from where you are now. It will not usually happen overnight, or in a weeks time. It took me many years to pull myself up to a semi-normal level, to where I could deal with things that happen to me without falling apart. I am not special, I am still struggling with depression, but I can deal with it now. Recognize your accomplishments. Recognize the things you do. Make them good things. You can do it.