Need Advice ( My Story )
I just want to say first of all thank you for clicking on this and also I'm not sure if this is even the right spot to post but here we go this is going to be long :|
First of all lets get the details, I am 17 male, I am suffering from depression and feel empty and lonely, I am on medicine but I don't think it is working anymore.
I feel like no one understands what I'm going through and no one can help me, I crave connection but can't find any, I find myself as a 3rd wheel for everything, I don't get invited to anything.
i told one of my friends I'm suffering from loneliness ( they are female ) but I don't think they know how to deal with emotional issues so I have received little support from them and it was already difficult for me to open up.
i feel as if I tell anyone else they either won't care or can't help me, I believe it would be easier if I was female because well females are so much better at emotions and I don't think any of my male friends could do anything.
i want to escape, not like suicide I just want to deflate and float away. I feel so empty inside like a hole through my lungs and heart, my breath even feels lifeless
i had a group of friends before that were horrible but I kept going back to them, I then left them out of the blue because I saw how mean they were and they didn't even try and recontact me, I think this has created trust issues
i just want someone to connect to and to get warm hugs from, I feel so lonely in this fight I just want to cry, so alone....
@HLAlone hey man, its ok, you're not alone in this ((((hug)))) studies actually show that both genders are emotional, its just that our ways of expressing them might be different due to social and cultural contexts and differences. Depression is not any easy thing to overcome either. I, too once faced loneliness, even when i was still in a relationship back then and had many friends. I didnt know how to be independent and autonomous, so I kept seeking help and relying on others to feel full, only to later face loneliness again. It was a vicious cycle, but eventually i have learned to be ok on my own again. Take your time, my friend. Know that it takes time, effort, trial and error to get there. And even if you have made progress but find yourself relapsing, its ok, give yourself time before picking up the pieces and moving forward, as long as you dont give up. Life is always full of ups and downs, and like they say, pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional, so hang in there, my friend, be strong. Feel free to pm me or any of the other listeners if you need, youre always welcome here in 7 cups :) if you'd like, perhaps these guides might help:
https://www.7cups.com/12-step-working-guide/
https://www.7cups.com/7cups-for-the-searching-soul/
https://www.7cups.com/how-to-deal-with-loneliness/
https://www.7cups.com/depression-help-online/
https://www.7cups.com/getting-unstuck/
The 12 step guide is usually for those who has addiction, but it is a good read if you want to make a change in life. The 7 cups guide is rather long, but very nice and is about love and empathy. Hope they help. Take care.
