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Learning to be alone

Kathlyng90 January 29th, 2016

Right now I am dealing with a lot on my plate- and the biggest thing is learning how to be alone and with myself. I think this is one of the hardest things I have done in my life- since i do not love myself.

I find it hard though, when I chat with people who need to hear the same things I tell myself. That you need to learn to love yourself, and be alone, and yet I cannot walk that walk it seems.

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bluetangerine34 January 29th, 2016

I know exactly how you feel. I have a lot of problems as well at the moment. I find it very hard when other people say nice things to me I find myself saying thank you to them but I don't Believe them.

January 29th, 2016

This was me once and let me tell you, everything is gonna be okay one day and you will be proud of yourself for being strong!!

One very important thing being loving yourself. If you don't, I don't think anyone else would. I'm mostly alone these days. I think about it this way- If I'm not cool and a great company for myself and if I'm boring myself, anyone else would think mostly the same way. Try to keep yourself happy, treat yourself with great respect, never bore yourself being an idiot, take risks, get out of comfort zone, do something new everyday, breathe, meditate, travel! :)

Life has many hidden treasures for you my friend and try solving the mystery puzzle and find them out. Never let down others and help those in need. Good luck buddy!

astuteScorpius January 30th, 2016

Loving yourself is hard and it's something that I'm getting to as well. I'm content with being alone but when it comes to havign to love myself I don't have the first idea of how to do it.

I've started by taking the compliments people around me give and evaluating them in my own head. Like people telling me I look good today or telling me I'm good at my job, that I did well drawing their blood etc. If compliments are coming from people we don't know, maybe they're a little more valid in some ways because we can't rationalize it away with "they're just saying that to not hurt my feelings" like you can with someone who knows and loves you already.