Am I worth anything to anyone?
hey wassup, I feel like death if death had a feeling but yeah I was in a relationship almost made 4 years but it had to end; cause of how I used to act prior to when the relationship started. The way her mindset is set up it’s like anything that causes her very emotional pain will get the nastiest of attitudes. But she wanted me stop being friends with all of the girls that are honestly and truly friends. My personality isn’t made to cut people off just for no reason. Long story short, I listened to her cut every girl off also some of my guy friends too cause she wanted me all to herself it was hard to be with my friends while someone in your phone is texting you like you should be in front of them instead of your friends. Also I felt like I couldn’t express my feelings to her cause my tone of voice would raise and she take it as me yelling when I’m not. As I type this I feel like the whole situation is toxic and left me feeling like I’m worth nothing. She doesn’t even text me with urgency anymore. All my friends are gone just cause of one relationship which failed which makes me a failure
@RaThahumblest I am sorry to hear what you went through. I agree with you, as I read what you said, it was definitely a toxic relationship and you didn't deserve it. I think that person needs to work out their issues and were not ready for a relationship. I think you are better off without them and i think it's good to try and talk about it.
I think failure would be staying with her for the rest of your life. I would call what you did a comeback story. I imagine you felt suffocated and bound by her and her insecurities for most of the relationship. I think you should enjoy your freedom and opportunities now while you still can. Reconnect with old friends, go to new places, and do what you want, when you want. Don't be down on yourself for realizing past mistakes. Learn and grow from those mistakes.
Ending a relationship always sucks and it takes time to recover, but recovery starts when you pick yourself up, dust off, and move on. You sound like you did your best to compromise with her and her demands (and for 4 years!). That's something I think any girl could at least appreciate about you. You're not a failure, man. Far from it.
Best wishes, Cain
Thank you guys for the support. I appreciate you guys opinion on what I said so far but I feel like I haven’t explained fully the situation. From the beginning it was much love; it just certain things she didn’t cope with. Like the female friends for example. They wanted to meet her; she not willing. So I went off and chill with them without her knowing. I know it sounds like cheating but I swear I wouldn’t be on this forum suffering from a heartbreak if I was a cheater. I’m a loyal man. Either way we’ve resolved that problem but I guess from her line the energy still lingers in the back of her mind.