Alone and friendless

Hey, you are someone special and if you don't have any friends now its only because they're clearly not good enough for an amazing person like you!

I understand you, I have never been very outgoing and have just moved somewhere new and I don't know anyone. ButIt takes time to find your realfriends, and when you do, they will support you through anything.

You'll be able to find friends soon, once people learn to appreciate you for who you are, that's when you know a real friend from a fake one. A real friend won't think of you as a "burden" they will love being around you! Just give it time :) My years in middle school and most of high school I had no friends, just online ones. In college now and tried making new friends, doesn't always work the way you want it to. Maybe just smile at someone new everyday and someone will approach you soon enough! Don't worry :)

I'm just scared that I did something wrong; like it' my fault.

Heya Ember..!

It's normal to be different,everyone is! Difference inpeople adds color to this boring world. You may feel alone and friendless for one reason or another but the real thing isyou're just too afraid to make "risky" moves to have friends.

True friends won't be "burdened" if you ask help from them, who knows they maybe more than willing to help you.

You will find some in the near future, just wait for it. Moreover, even you are making moves, you will never cherish a friendship if you won't work hard on it. Do not think negatively and do not be afraid to reach out.

Ember,

We all have meaning and purpose in life. To share some of my own life story here I was very quiet and reserve when I first joined the military but 24 years of service later I am very different from who I was when I joined at 18. To this point you have encountered experiences that have shaped you thus far but what is it about that experience that leads you to believe you have done something wrong?

A question to ask of yourself is how are you defined, is it by the opinions of others or is it of your own actions? In either you will find that a definitive self is always in constant change, there is always growth, and we are never the same as when we were born. So to this point again are you defined by others or do you define yourself? Keep in mind there is nothing wrong with either but it is important to find who we are, I mean even after 24 years of military service I am redefining myself yet again so age is not relevant. The experience holds relevance, those we encounter hold relevance, what we encounter in life holds relevance yet neither holds more weight than the other or more relevance than the other.

Does this help?

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EIB 94.

Yes. Thank you all so much. I really needed this.