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tig1234 April 19th, 2020

i'm stuck at uni due to being a key-worker where i am. my parents are both high-risk (my dads critically at risk) so if i go home, i can't work. I need as much as i can get to pay for my rent next year and my car, so until we're not on a proper lockdown i don't have the choice to go home even to see how they're all doing. i've had clinical depression in the past and i can tell it's starting to come back, mainly through suffering with loneliness. I'm with one of my flat mates but i wouldn't say we're super close, he's a lot quieter than me and while we make effort to chat sometimes we are both getting fed up of the familiarity. i feel so stuck, i miss everyone at home and even speaking on the phone to them has made me feel more homesick and low, and i don't know how to cope with my feelings as i still have assessments to complete and the pressure to keep sane in this situation just to complete those is overwhelming. i feel at a dead end:(

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Simonisreadytotalk123 April 20th, 2020

@tig1234

sorry to hear you are going through this, it is a stressful time.

It is emotional calling your parents and knowing you can't go back and be with them. Still, I think calling your parents is important, because not only does it show them you care, but it shows you that you have family, though separated from you right now, who support you and are thinking of you. Because things are emotional, it's good to find time to express these emotions. By allotting time to express emotions, we leave the time left to do things with less of an emotional burden. Journaling, if you journal is what many people do, I love to draw. Writing things out, how you feel is good. Meditate, take time from your day to release pent of emotions, and relax your body as much as you can. Try to think of one positive thing a day, because we need positivity the most in stressful times.

Some very difficult things are happening for you, but when you trust in yourself and those who believe in you, it is the path ahead we look to. I believe in you!

Take care-

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tig1234 OP April 20th, 2020

@Simonisreadytotalk123 thank you so much, this has really helped to read. i love journaling and have been making use of making lists (another thing i love doing) to get jobs done, and it's been super helpful! your other ideas are really useful and i'll be giving those a try too

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Simonisreadytotalk123 April 20th, 2020

@tig1234

Sometimes it seems like emotions, especially those polarizing ones are all that are on our minds. But just doing something- any positive coping techniques - is doing something that might help.

Best wishes!

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