Struggles of deep depression
How do you deal with the struggles of deep depression when meds aren't working and you've tried many therapy isn't helping and you can barely get yourself to leave your house or do the most basic things? How do you push yourself to do those things? what do you find helps?
@Aramina honestly, it varies from individual to individual so what might work for some, might not work for the others. But one thing that always makes me feel contented is a good book.
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@Aramina what helps me is first thinking about what my big goal is. For me it's getting a graduate degree. Then with that as my motivator, I pick one really small thing I can try and do today, even if it's just getting out of bed, or taking a shower, etc. Another thing I find important is to forgive yourself for not always being able to win out against your depression. If you judge yourself for it you're not helping anything. At lastly, try as hard as you can to be really proud of those tiny accomplishments. I know people say "little steps!" on here all the time, but it really does work. Best of luck, I realy hope you feel better soon!
@Aramina it depends on the person and his/her capabilities. Things that work for someone may not work for another. best way is to find something that you love even after going through rough path love for it has never changed. Always try to replace your negative thoughts to positive ones. it doesn't have a sudden effect but it could help you gradually.
As for me what I did was listening to songs and lots of meditation. I spent my time to heal my self. I had a lot of areas to improve and i focus myself on that and i had a strong urge to be better. These helped me. But it may or may not work for you.
I am.having a low of epic proportions...does anyone know why these can cone out the blue on stable meds. I'm sleeping all the time, blowing social anything off. My hubby has Aspergers and is no help. The nasty voice is starting up again yooooo are worthless
@Stetson
When meds and therapy weren't working, and I was barely able to get out of the house to do basic things, these are some things which I did
1. I did a self introspection and kept small goals, and felt immense pride in achieving them - Source of Motivation.
2. I gradually learned to let go of past, and started living the moment - Practicing Meditation/Mindfulness.
3. I picked up a hobby of writing blogs/articles, and felt happy - Acquiring new Skill/hobby.
4. I had learnt to practice gratitude and started healping people - Volunteering.
5. Most important, when I knew nothing worked I started accepting self and people for who we are rather than who I want myself/them to be - Forget & Forgive/Acceptance.
P.S - When I was in a state where I was numb to all my feelings, and completely unresponsive to the external world, I surrendered myself to God(as I believed in him). I was in a state where I had nothing to lose.
These are what I did, need not necessarily by followed by all, as it depends.
@fancyLake23, this is excellent advice and much like what I do.
Something that has helped me (other than what others mention here...and there's some great advice) is the use of apps. I'm a list kind of gas, so two apps that help me keep doing things that I need to do are Momentum (on my laptop) and Balanced (on my phone).
Balanced allows me to choose different activities that help keep me "balanced" throughout the day/week/monthose differe. I choose different activities and how many times I want to do it per day/week/month. Once done, swipe to the right. It keeps track of how many activities you complete on time and keeps a percentage. Stay above 75% to stay "balanced. Since I love to check things off my lists, it's really motivating for me. I've been using it for over six months and have only had one period of about a week when I didn't log in. I love this app! I think I purchased an upgrade so that I could create my own activities. But you don't have to do that. You can always go back and change and edit your tasks.
Momentum is on my laptop. I can't remember how I happened across it, but whenever I click to get a new tab in my browser, the Momentum screen comes up. It has a beautiful background picture that changes daily, a motivational quote at the bottom (that you can favorite, if you like), a to do list in the bottom right, temperature in the upper right, time in the center with a greeting underneath. Under the greeting is a place to indicate your focus for the day. I don't put all of my to do items on this one, although that's certainly an option. I just put the daily things I tend to forget if it's not right in front of me (yes, I can be an air head at times...hehehe) and anything that's urgent...such as renewing car tags, getting a bill mailed by a certain date, and things like that. But that's because I use Wunderlist (a phone app) for all the other tasks and shopping lists, and such. That way, the urgent things and daily things don't get lost in a long list that's not in front of my eyes all the time.
These two apps help me to feel a sense of accomplishment and provide me data to prove I've really accomplished something is able to silence that inner critic that says I never do anything. That seems to go a long way in keeping me doing those things that are helpful boosting my mood. Then other things start falling into place.