Need advice on how to tell people about dealing with mental health
I went through a low mental state this summer, really contemplating staying alive or not. My roommate (now ex roommate & ex bestfriend) always preaches about being there for people if they need anything with mental health. I ended up reaching out to her since she was so close to me physically (roommate) & also because she always says she will be there for someone if they need it. Im going to save the details bc they arent the point of this but basically she handled it very badly & it sent me on an even deeper spiral bc i had used the last of my strength to ask her for help.
luckily another friend noticed & was able to help me. but not everyone is that lucky.
one thing that still really bugs me is the fact that shes still posting about being there for people with mental health. its suicide prevention month & i kinda wanna text her & educate her cuz thats the point of having a month for something.
texting her something like:
if u wanna be an advocate for mental health, great
if youre not in the mental place to be an advocate for mental health, thats perfectly okay
whats NOT okay is advertising youre a mental health advocate & then when someone comes to you, you ignore them
i dont want her to do it to someone else & i really want to get the message across because she walked away with no remorse & it hurts me to know she could do it to someone else. is this a good idea? is there a better way to word it? i want her to listen so she can be better for someone else.
@Mandi365 I just want to say sorry she weren't there for you when you needed it :( (but glad your other friend was!) I truly understand how it feels to have someone say they're there and not actually be. You reasonably don't want that to happen to anyone else.
Advice may not be the most helpful as what I think may work may not. But if you think its a good idea to educate her on how she can improve (I appreciate how kindly you put it and how wonderfully I presume you'd say it to her) I fully support the idea personally.
....... Sometimes shedding light on things like this with someone can cause them to realise where they're going wrong and hopefully prevent it.
Good luck with it all. ☺️
@Mandi365
Honestly, that is pretty upsetting and I'm hoping you'll feel better. There are many people in the world who does this for attention or to look like they are a good person. To me, I don't think she understands anything about mental health if she's going to ignore you/somebody else. If I were you, I rather speak to her about it because if she continues to do it to other people, then there is an issue. Hopefully, you sort things out.
