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Important Descisions and Depression Difficulties

KF1210 May 10th, 2020

I'm having a really hard time with an important descision and I'm not entirely sure why. I'm currently in a certificate program that will make me eligeable for the master's program I was planning on entering. But I'm not sure if it's still what I want. I still enjoy the subject (Egyptology), but I've been feeling unmotivated and burned out on the subject lately, and this isn't the first time I've been that way. I've also been considering teaching English overseas, but now that I have an interview, I'm losing interest in that too. Looking over the job description, it seems like a very people-dense job, and being an introvert, it just seems overwhelming. I have a wide variety of interests, any one of which could have been a career, but between long-term depression, school costs, and a narcissistic mother, I'm in my 30's with very little to show for my work career wise, and some of the paths I was interested in either are closed or would be a lot more difficult now. On top of that, I really need to move away from my narcissistic relatives, and needing to save for an oversees move would make that almost impossible since I would need to buy a car. I also need a career that would support me, both short term and long term.

So now, I just feel stuck in this descision. I'm not sure which interest are genuinely mine and which ones my mother pushed me into. I know for a fact that my interest in ancient Egypt is at least partially a coping mechanism, and I don't know if it'll last past healing. I also don't know how much of this confusion is depression-induced apathy and how much is genuinely changing interests. I don't want to make such an important descision too hastily since I don't feel like I'm in a good place to make it, but I could lose even more opportunities if I put it off too long. My mood's been ok overall, but I've been so anxious and easily frusterated that I haven't been able to start anything home-based, either. I just keep going in circles and I'm not sure how to stop. Any advice?

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healingWhisper May 16th, 2020

@KF1210 thank you for sharing this. It sounds like you are having a difficult time deciding what to do. It may be helpful to talk about this with a family, friend or a listener here :)

withinhell May 17th, 2020

@KF1210 If i was you i would just move far enough away from your relatives with NPD just so you could get things in order then embark on a futher move to overseas, but if you check out you tube on NPD it may help you and get empowered with knowldege of this subject it will make you stronger and hopefully settle that mind of yours down, beleive me i got rid of my mother 16 years ago and my ex 4 years ago both down to NPD, once you learn its them witht he problem not you it will get you facing the right way! you dont need them live your own life not what others want you to live .. i feel for you