How can one become more patient when he feels bad almost all the time?
It's easy to be patient when you feel good, but how can we increase patience to get better when we feel ill almost the whole time?
@FicaR94 Is the question being more patient when YOU feel bad, or that you want to be less impatient with HIM feeling bad all the time?
Either way, I think it's natural to get irritable with other people, and what really matters is how you act on it. I tend to get snappish and then feel bad about it later. So I think of things I can say even when I'm irritated. "I'm sorry, that must be really hard for you." "I understand." "Can you tell me more about that?" are things you can't really go wrong with. You might also like to keep some topics on hand that are interesting/funny so you can easily change the subject if it's something you don't want to talk about.
I also have certain activities I do when I know I'm going to be in a situation that makes me irritable. Like a knitting project I can take along. Or some simple mindfulness exercises. (One is to just feel your feet connected to the floor and focus on that connection, then where you are connected to the chair, etc. Very grounding.)
I don't know if that is what you were asking, but I hope it's helpful.
@Alia3475 @Alia3475 it's about me becoming more patient because I feel bad almost the whole time, but I wrote the question to be general, thank you for your reply!
@FicaR94 That makes sense!
I tend to think of patience as an action, rather than a feeling.
I will feel impatient more than I act impatient. The water was out over the weekend, and it's haaard not to be impatient for water! But my neighbor was like, "I'm really pissed." Whereas I thought, this isn't anyone's fault and the city workers are obviously trying to fix it, so why get angry about it? I was able to focus on what I had control over (going to buy drinking water) and adjust my expectations for the day.
I used to be a nanny, and kids drive me crazy. But I learned how to act patient in spite of how I felt, and that did keep my irritability from escalating.
