Getting Married
So I'm engaged and depressed. This causes me to completely question whether or not I'm making the right decision. I love my fiance very much, but depression is choking me and making me hate him and everyone and not trust my decision to marry him. I don't know what to do. My mom has suggested postponing the wedding, but we already have a lot of money invested in the venue. The wedding is a year away, so it's hard to put the kabosh on something that I'll probably be ok with when it comes time for it. But I just feel like I'm swimming in quicksand and I can't make it more than a few days without sobbing.
@paperthinhymn
It sounds like you're going through a lot. Marriage is a HUGE step in your life - and it can be a really great one, despite the major changes that may come about. The most important thing to remember about relationships is that they rely on communication and trust. :) It seems that your family, friends, and fiancee really care about you. Hang in there and make sure to communicate your feelings. You have the future in your hands, you can make whatever decisions you are comfortable with.
Don't forget that you can always connect with a listener when you're feeling anxious or stressed. :) We are hear to help you.
Take some time for self-care and breathe :)
P.S. I like your username, reminds me of an Anberlin song.
@paperthinhymn
Thank you for sharing this with us! It's been said before, but marriage is a big transition. It's understandable to have some doubts about it, it can involve a lot of changes in your life. It sounds like you're really thinking about whether it's something you want, and I think that's fine.
How comfortable you are with this decision is very important. I understand that money might be a factor in your decision, but your happiness is also very crucial. As the others said, communicating your feelings can be very important in relationships. Regardless of what you decide, the 7 Cups community is here to support you! I hope you figure things out!
