Do They See Us
Cazzy8752
July 15th, 2021
We all know having mental health affects how we think, feel, act; can't communicate effectively, we withdrawal from social activities, can't sleep or sleep too much, and our eating changes. We may use substances to help us manage, our sadness lasts for long periods, days weeks, and months with if were lucky a few good days.
Why am I listing all these things?
Because it is so hard for us to open up and to discuss things with our families and friends when we want to. It's hard enough for us to make sense of it all, understand fully our whys of feeling this way, that way, and why we do the things we do; So how can we possibly expect them to understand.
Is it up to us to reach out always?
Should they be able to see the signs and offer support?
Will we accept it if they do?
My example here is, I'm currently living with my ex (That's another story) He says he is always there for me, wants to help and support me. (Nice of him I know & I'm lucky we have this friendship)
You know what?
For the past month, I have been suffering silently and going through all the above that I listed. He hasn't seen the signs or warnings of my struggles. UNTIL yesterday I gave him my bank card and cash asking him to hold onto it so I don't go and buy myself alcohol. (That's my worst substance and my go-to) for suppressing everything and my escape from it all so I can feel some release and happiness with what the alcohol gives me.
Plus I hadn't showered in two days, I was in the same clothes (I know YUK) and he hadn't noticed until I asked him to hold onto my card and money.
DOES HE SEE ME!!!
Does he see my struggles?
Do our loved ones and friends see the warnings/the signs we are giving to them?
Again do we have to reach out to them?
If so how, when we have difficulty with explaining all that's going on.
DO THEY SEE US!!
Why am I listing all these things?
Because it is so hard for us to open up and to discuss things with our families and friends when we want to. It's hard enough for us to make sense of it all, understand fully our whys of feeling this way, that way, and why we do the things we do; So how can we possibly expect them to understand.
Is it up to us to reach out always?
Should they be able to see the signs and offer support?
Will we accept it if they do?
My example here is, I'm currently living with my ex (That's another story) He says he is always there for me, wants to help and support me. (Nice of him I know & I'm lucky we have this friendship)
You know what?
For the past month, I have been suffering silently and going through all the above that I listed. He hasn't seen the signs or warnings of my struggles. UNTIL yesterday I gave him my bank card and cash asking him to hold onto it so I don't go and buy myself alcohol. (That's my worst substance and my go-to) for suppressing everything and my escape from it all so I can feel some release and happiness with what the alcohol gives me.
Plus I hadn't showered in two days, I was in the same clothes (I know YUK) and he hadn't noticed until I asked him to hold onto my card and money.
DOES HE SEE ME!!!
Does he see my struggles?
Do our loved ones and friends see the warnings/the signs we are giving to them?
Again do we have to reach out to them?
If so how, when we have difficulty with explaining all that's going on.
DO THEY SEE US!!
mytwistedsoul
August 16th, 2021
@Cazzy8752 Hello 🙂 I think alot of times people are simply caught up in their own lives or there is a distance between people, may be because of actual distance or perhaps due to circumstances. You said he hadn't noticed until you gave him your money and card. Did you have much interaction with one another or do you both tend to keep to yourselves? There can be so much that could have contributed to his not noticing. Perhaps he did notice some but didn't want to invade your privacy? It could be that he thought that if things were bad that you would say something to him. I know sometimes I tend to hide things from others and I get quiet because I don't want to bother anyone.
