Depression affecting a loved one

Hello Everyone,

I'll try to get through this without breaking down. My significant other has depression that's been pretty much affected his life, and after several year of suppressing it, it's out full force.

The initial breakup and attempted reconciliation due to DUI we spent more than a year on, and he still was ignoring the heed of seeking his own counseling. He still brushed it up, by the mood swings and things he'd say we're becoming fire hurtful. It came to the point where he blurted out he cheated on me during the initial break, and everything just came crashing down. The love between us is very strong, but to see him spiraling down FAST is hurting.

After my serious car accident (a week exactly later might I add), he's had a partial wake up call and has finally narrowed it down after a month of narrowing a pool down-with breakdowns and panic attacks in between.

I want to be to be there for him, but of course within my own limits. We're now at the waiting game of hearing back from the other choice, and he gets gruff and upset when the topic of speaking about getting help overwhelms him, and it hurts me to see it. As someone diagnosed with Anxiety, I do understand those feelings well, but he flat out refuses to talk about it for the time being, as he just wants to breathe and enjoy for now until the last potential therapist calls back.

How do I be there? I want to support him, but I know my boundaries. I know when he talks in angry outbursts sometimes, it's not truly him. If thought about just letting him be, but he made it clear how grateful he is that I'm there to help. His friends and family abandoned him and think he's just a loser. 😞

I'm sorry for rambling on...I wish there was a forum that talks about this. Any support or words of wisdom is helpful.