Dealing with hurt
I don't seem to know how to deal with unresolved hurt if I cannot hate the person for it. I keep looking for some way to help heal this but it's feel good hokey thats coming up on the internet. It just takes the ONE thing to click in my brain for me to learn something new. Conventional methods never seem to work for me. This is very fustrating but at least I'm talking about it.
If you have any that seem to work for you please let me know because the internet is putting all those feel good sites to the top of the list it's hard finding anything relatable. Time doesn't really heal. Theres no way for me to get some closure on it or even resolve it at least for a while.(i'm talking at least a year) I wish I knew a process that worked for me that would help me work through this deep hurt I feel.
@PinkLife
Hi there. I'm sorry to hear you've been dealing with feeling hurt and have trouble mending the wounds. Personally, I think feel good sites rarely work, and if they do, only for those who aren't deeply hurt, just having a bad day or rough patch or something. I prefer practicing exercises where I learn how to let go of painful thoughts, not stop them or try to control them. As I'm not entirely clear what you're struggling with here is the link to all the 7cups guides with exercises https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php
I think perhaps the one of Forgiveness might be useful to you, but if you feel like one of the other guides is more appropriate, please feel free to check them out.
@LilGreenBird exercising is a common one. I already exercise most days of the week. Forgiveness is also common. It usually doesn't help even if i am able to forgive.
And then people get fustrated when all these common things don't work for me.
Internet and books have been the only ways i've made any sort of progress with my depression and life in general. Finding the hidden gems is hard. And you don't know you're going to need something til you come into a problem and then you're wound up in the problem it's hard to even do anything.
Hi Pink can we be friends
https://ideas.ted.com/7-ways-to-practice-emotional-first-aid/
i dont deal with it very well
