One Thing I Know About Loneliness
What's one thing that you know about loneliness?
It can be how it makes you feel, how to overcome it, how you handle it, or anything else. c:
@Emmur One thing I know about loneliness: it's not fun at all! And whenever I feel lonely I will try to do something fun to make me feel happy (e.g doing my hobbies, calling my family or bestfriends, etc)
One thing i know avout loneliness is it's worse to feel alone when surrounded y people than just being alone
One thing I know about loneliness is, even though you are with a group of friends, in a crowded room, it's a feeling that eats at you and you don't know what to do. It makes you lost within yourself and you start to question if anyone even likes you at all. I don't know how to handle it yet.
@Emmur
One thing I know about loneliness is that it doesn't necessarily mean you feel it when you are the only person in a single room.
You can feel so lonely when you're with a bunch of people, and at the same time you can totally be fine when on your own.
The tricky thing is when you actually want someone there with you, to talk, to just be there, to give you a hug, or anything else, but there is no one. That's when loneliness creeps up.
@JayTheBird14 I completely agree with you. Generally I am ok by myself, but like to have a few very close friends. Unfortunately, due to too much work and then trauma, I have self isolated. Now I am suffering the consequences and am extremely lonely. Life is colorless without people to share it with you. I am trying to 'get back out there' but feel dull/lifeless and probably am not the best company. It is sort of chicken and egg -- need to be around people to help lift me from the fog of loneliness, but the fog of loneliness makes me less appealing to others.
@Auckland
I understand your problem, I truly do. And I'm not going to say that this message is going to solve anything for you, but just hear me out, okay? Because I really don't want you to feel the way you do.
You have gone through trauma you say, and isolating oneself is a coping mechanism many have. Don't feel bad for doing just that. It isn't the most healthy coping mechanism though from what I've been told, and you suffer from it I make out from what you say. I'm sorry for that. But there is no reason for you not to start mingling again, strenghtening old relationships and making new ones.
Don't worry about not being good company. Your fears are probably unfounded, as many fears are. Also, relationships can bear a lot. When you yourself aren't strong, it is your familiar relationships, your friends, and possible your romantic interest who will catch you when you need it because after all, they love you. Through the good and the bad.
So try to stop worrying (which I know is like, stupid hard) and start living. Look at interactions in a positive light, and you'll see people will start seeing you in an opposite light as well.
I hope you will feel better with every single day. I'll burn a little candle for you to send you light and positivity 
@JayTheBird14 Thank you.
@Auckland same here too. That's what I've been going on about recently that work is taking most of my time up . I have weekends off but in week I'm always working cuz of overtime and contract change so yeah I need more tree time too . I'm going away on Weekend to Butlins so that will give me a break. I feel this way too. What is it stopping you going out? Anything I can try to hell?
@TreaureSeekers3 Hello Treasure - I have recently started to go out (slowly), by joining a church and a few Meetups (are you familiar with Meetup?). I am making a conscious effort to find people with values the same as mine mainly in terms of how they treat fellow human beings. It is slow going. I've met some nice people, but haven't established that core group of friends yet. All my family lives far away.
The trauma I experienced made me see people, in general, in a very different light, mainly I now know that there is evil in more people than I realized. Call it naivete on my part for not knowing. Jung called it 'the shadow side'.
I hope you are able to make the time to spend time with friends and family - that is what life should be about.
@Auckland SoSorry for late reply. Yes know meet ups for sure. I'm thinking about going to my first one but don't know when. I am busy cuz of work and time. I wanna go on my own and make new friends. The people seem like those I can be myself with that I never had. Did it surprise you? What meet up did you go to? So many. What your interests? Yeah I'm also looking for hobby. One thing at time.
@TreaureSeekers3 Hello - I've been joining hiking meetups. Since I am experiencing so much anxiety and depression, I find that hours and hours of exercise are the only relief I can find. I happened to find one that linked hiking with spirituality, the organizer on that one has been a God send. He is a truly kind empathetic person.
One thing I know about loneliness is that it magnifies your sadness and eats away at your happiness until it's no longer there.
@quiescentDawn
It's so sad but so true
One thing i know about loneliness is seeing all the happy couples so in love and feeling so empty and sad because you want that connection with someone. Or even just a hug.
loneliness is natural as it comes within us despite how tremendous our life is like. the feeling lingers within us without notice, no matter how many people surround us. it hugs us as much as good mood like excitement. i bliv that one way to survive it is by simply letting it subside. like waves hitting the shore, loneliness will cloud our mood naturally as we cannot possibly be so cheered up all the time. i also bliv that it will pass, as natural as every other emotion we content inside us. if we can embrace all the positive moods and grow from them, why not trying to make peace with the loneliness to understand ourselves better and be empowered from it =]
@Emmur
What I know from experience about loneliness is that you can still experience it while having ''friends'' around. In my case I feel empty and sometimes sad.
There's the type where you just crave being in social situations/contact. The other one is feeling isolated from everyone emotionally.
It ends up becoming a vicious cycle! I feel lonely. It makes me feel sad and withdrawn. And that pushes people away even further.