my online boyfriend again...update
My boyfriend and I got into a fight last night because he thought it was okay to fat shame individuals. I told him it was mean and no one should have that happen to them just because they weren't the ideal size. He doesn't like being told he's wrong so after about 15 minutes of hearing why it's okay to shame people, I still wasn't buying it so he leaves because he doesn't know how to discuss differences. He just tries to move on instead of solving the issue. He then told me that I was weak for caring about peoples feelings and I care too much about things. He even said that I don't know anything about life because I'm 17 and he's older. I honestly don't know if I was ever in the right anymore and maybe he is right and i'm too young.
Am I in the wrong?
@DaniAleah156
Dani,
As mentioned in your previous posts, this man is a predator. You are not wrong. Fat Shaming is wrong. You are a good person for standing up for people. He is trying to break you. No one here can make you leave him. I just hope you realize you're better than this relationship before too much damage is done.
@HopieRemi I was just having a hard time believing he was a predator because he seemed so nice. I'll try and make the best of the situation. I'm working on leaving him one day at a time. Ive even started standing up to him instead of agreeing with him for fear that he would leave
Thank you for taking the time to tell me this and point things out. I appreciate it
@DaniAleah156 Someone who says caring about others feelings is weakness isn’t someone you should care about. They won’t like it when it’s their feelings not being cared about. Humans are largely feeling beings, more so than we are thinking beings. So a person who dismisses feelings as unimportant are really “less human” in my opinion. But this person you’re talking about might just have been taught this and it is quite hard to teach them differently in a single conversation.
