Unlovable
Hi all! I hope everyone is okay. If you’re here that means it’s a safe space if you aren’t, and I’m glad you’re able to be here with me so we can get better together.
I struggle with a lot, I internalize a lot of my feelings and thoughts. I struggle with depression and anxiety, I’ve been diagnosed with depression, generalized anxiety, social anxiety, ocd, and adhd. I don’t take medication, so my days can be a struggle but I try to find something rewarding each day.
The reason I’m here is no matter how much I can support someone else, so can’t seem to give myself that same energy. Often times I find myself unlovable, and I cannot love myself. I cant accept myself, or why anyone would want to be around me. It sounds vain I’m sure, but in all honesty it’s such a weight to carry never feeling good enough. Why can I find it so easy to accept and love someone else, but can’t give myself that same thing? Does anyone else have this issue?
Im struggling to hold on. Some tips would be helpful on what you all do to feel validated for yourself so maybe I can try something new?
Thank you for listening and I look forward to reading your replies 💙
@impartialPlum5477 I do! I struggle with all this too, except adhd. I think self care is important, like maybe a hobby or excersise, finding a place of beauty you can just go and sit for a while, even plan little events or weekend breaks. I'm not the best at suggestions, sorry. But I wish you good luck, and gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤ how come you don't take meds?
Trying to convince myself caring for myself is vital feels, dare I say, wrong some times? And I often struggle to find those things! It’s okay, I appreciate knowing I’m not alone in this struggle. I’m hugging you back!!💙
I feel with the plethora of issues I have I don’t want to be an experiment. I would rather just try each moment the best I can without them. I’ve been unmedicated my entire life so I didn’t see a reason to start. Some days are harder than others though.
@impartialPlum5477 yeah I understand I struggle with self care/love thing too. And the meds thing is fair enough ❤ I'm on like 12 different meds. I am disabled though so some of them are for physical reasons too. The best we can do is live in the moment, and find comfort in life's little things, and kindness of others ❤I'm here if you want to vent or if there's any thing I can do to help you ❤❤ just tag me ❤
I absolutely appreciate that! 💙💙💙 and I couldn’t agree more! The little things should be a huge focus and I’ll try to adapt my thinking to pay more attention to those things! Like I LOVE chickpeas and coffee, not necessarily together 😂
you are strong to keep going! And I admire your empathetic attitude it means a lot. I’m also here if you ever need to vent 💙 your insight has helped me a lot. Thank you
Hey i am sorry for you. I do struggling with the same or similar situation you, struggling to love myself and to find love or to feel enough sometimes. I am struggling with a lot of things same to you. And it feels good to know that I am not the only person who is dealing with these problems. I sometimes Cook a meal for myself and sometimes go for a walk to feel good.
Hope you find the solutions for this and tell me what you do also to feel good.❤️
I’m sorry to hear you are struggling 💙 admitting those feelings takes courage and you’re stronger than you think you are. And you’re also not alone! What do you like to cook? I love walking! I recently moved and the new town I live in is a lot smaller than the previous one I lived in, so walking isn’t as enjoyable. But it’s still nice! And I like to try and find new things to admire on walks 💙 or run into some cute puppies 😂