How do you talk to people
You know how every single advice is to to reach out to your friends or family when you’re in an episode? What do you tell them? I have problem reaching out because I don’t know what to tell them. It always felt like I’m saying the same thing over without anything really actually being done.
like now, I’m currently in an episode which revolve mainly around the worthlessness of life. How do I reach out to someone who can actually help instead of telling me everything will be okay
@cyanMoon6064 I'm in the same boat too. I get these long periods of time in my life where I really good at communicating and then other times I'm horrible and I just shut down. I always feel guilty for sharing my feelings with others unless they are good feelings because I don't want to bother them or they just never know what to say when I do say something. I just subscribed to a therapy program to see if it will help because I'm lost and need help desperately.
@foragingandfilesorting0109 so does the therapy program work? Majority of the time I feel like I don’t need someone to listen. I need someone to tell me what can I do to navigate. Talking to friends is hard. Like you said, I also feel guilty for sharing my bad feelings and plus I feel like I kept going in circles because it’s always the same thing. I feel like I need someone else.
Hi Mr Moon, that's exactly why this site exists. When you feel you can't reach out to anyone else, there are listeners here who you can talk to. Most of us are fine to listen to what's going on, even if we've heard it before.
@cyanMoon6064 we can only do our best. Find the little things that help you things you enjoy, when your depresssion takes over. Sorry your struggling rn ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤
@cyanMoon6064
If you feel in the past you are not being actually heard and getting a lot of "it will be ok" statements, that can be very frustrating. seeking a neutral person or professional may get a different result although some professionals are all" it will be ok " too .
I have a few friends who just i would call it tough love and tells me things i may need to hear not just what they think i want to hear. some people shy away from that attitude thinking it will not cause drama or hurt feelings..... but they seldom see the "It will be fine " approach leaves some feeling unheard and their thoughts and feelings dismissed.
I would definitely do some reaching out beyond just friends and family. Are you working with a therapist at all? It can really help.
But you also need a network of friends and family too. There will be some that understand and others that do not. Focus on the ones that you think will understand best. Then stop yourself from presuming that you told them everything before. Your pain now is new pain. You deserve a chance to express it. @cyanMoon6064
Right now I have an extremely small circle of friends so it’s kind of hard. And honestly, I’m also having a bit of issues with my best friend so there’s no one to turn to.
That can be tough. Do you have any professionals who can turn to? You usually can start with a primary care doctor. @cyanMoon6064
Well that is what I always get myself into. Repeat the same thing over and over and sometimes I feel like a broken machine. It's like people doesn't acknowledge your cry and that is so sad in this time and age. No one cares.